My girlfriend is being deployed at the end of January for Iraq. She broke up with me a month ago saying "I lost feelings for you because of my training for Iraq." I know there might be other reasons but reading up on soldiers and their deployments many soldiers do break things off when they really don't want to. I'm getting calls and text messages and can sense care and sadness in her voice. I did a lot of sole searching and I want her to be my last girlfriend. I know to be supportive and comforting in a time like this, which I am doing. I also am giving her space which she needs to sort through her feelings and emotions. My world is just spinning out of control and she really doesn't know how much this breakup and deployment is wrecking havoc on me.

I'm sorry for your loss. If you care about her, truly, then stop thinking of yourself, friend. You think you have it bad? Try putting on a military uniform, picking up a gun and stepping into a conflict zone.

You'll have to swallow your pride here and let her go, if that's her call. You do it. She has bigger fish to fry than nursing a relationship with you, one she's indicating she's not up to continuing in light of her reality. Respect that.

Wish her well, mean it, and don't give her any guff. She doesn't need it from you, not right now.