Originally Posted by mariedz
My daughter got married recently in the NYC area where weddings are QUITE pricey! The reception cost $150 per plate, with tax and tip PLUS the band, thank you favors, etc. In this area, guests generally have an idea of the cost and most cover their "plate." My husband's rule of thumb was always "What would it cost me to go out for cocktails, dinner and dancing in this area?"
Many of our guests did indeed cover the cost of the plate, but not all. It was somewhat expected that people from out of the NYC area would not do so, but they were people we really wanted to have at our wedding.
My problem is the opposite end of the spectrum: how do we handle guests who did NOT give any gift at all or whose gift may have been lost in the confusion?