Hi my husband and I separated last year in sept 2007. We decided to give it another try in may of this year. He moved to Massachusetts during the separation so he was doing his thing and I was too. Well when we told our stuff and he meet an older woman out there, I lost all connection with the men I had dated in fairness to my marriage and children. Well he said he changed and he didn't in many things. But my main thing is he is always asking me weird questions I can explain. The other day he asked me who a name jim. He said he found the paper in the couch. Also when I talk about my patients he keeps jealous and looks at me like I am doing something with the men. I sometimes feel he is feeling guilty because he may be talking to the lady again. Could I be right? I don't want to sit here wasting my time on a man who doesn't have any intentions of making our marriage to work or let alone get a job. :confused:

Ps. I work a lot of hours and work a lot of days because I am the only breadwinner in the house. I wake up extremely early and get very late from work. He says he can't work that is why he doesn't work

A lot of times a man that is feeling guilty about his own affair will try to accuse you of the same thing. I would suggest you sit him down and you two have a long talk about everything that happened during that separation period and just what is happening right now. A relationship cannot work without proper communication.

I am a man and he may be insecure because he is not working and you probably work with many handsome professional men, He may see them as a threat.That's probably the reason for the accusations. Right now he feels less of a man.