A few months ago my girlfriend went down on me and for some reason I couldn't get hard. In fact since we had been kissing and for a long time, I had had an erection, but after I started to get wet, I think pre-ejaculation, she went down on me and my erection went away completely and I couldn't get hard. Ever since that moment I have been extremely confused because I don't know why it happened and it has been occupying my thoughts excessively, and it has effected me so much that I have even started to steer clear of some sexual encounters and come ons to prevent that possible embarrassment again. I am 18, a virgin, and I don't have any problem masturbating. What is wrong with me? Please help, and thank you in advance for your input.

Hey Man, don't worry about it it happens to the best of us. When you get a erection it is blood pressure that maintains it after a while of having one you could lose that pressure and lose the Wood you was supporting. Also if you got your nut before any sex that could make you lose it also. Don't give up . Practice makes perfect.

I think that young people rush the different sexual acts that they need to grow into.

That's a big turnoff for most of them deep down psychologically, in my opinion. I think later they have trouble performing if I'm to believe what is posted here.

You may have a damaged female on your hands, a girl who was forced into all kinds of sexuality before she was ready, now, she doesn't know what good sex and a good relationship is like. She may be a people pleaser.

Just kiss and feel up girls... that's enough for now... fellatio is an acquired taste at best for mature people. There is a whole world out there in AMerica of people having unsatisfying, bad sex... don't fall into that trap. :)

Whatever the reason behind it the more you worry now the worse off you will be.. Like a snowball effect.
The best way to get over this is to tackle it head on (ha.. excuse the pun!). Avoiding the problem will only make you more self-concious which will make it harder for it to not happen again. Try not to stress about it and just relaxxx

Its not a major deal, dw it happens.. I had some issues when my girlfriend "tried" to give me oral for the first time. It didn't go so well because I guess I nervous but didn't feel nervous.
Its just unbelievable timing, please don't think its an issue because its not, you were probably nervous or even if you weren't.. things just tend to switch off.

-cheers.

Some people just don't care for that type of foreplay as they find it too soft and or you may have felt uncomfortable for your girl.Tell her how to do it to your liking and be sure she is a willing participant and this may help out in the future.Above all only do what feels good to both of you and be open about your feelings.Communication is key for a healthy sexual relationship.