I am in a relationship with this guy, and we've been dating for about 5 or 6 months. First off let me tell you how we got to together. It all started after me and my son's dad broke up in late May. My use to be best friend was talking to this guy (which is my boyfriend now) while she was already in a relationship with someone else. She would come over to my apartment all the time and ask me if we could go pick up this guy and so I was like sure. ( that guy is my boyfriend now) So they would come over and have sex at my house because this guy is black and her parents didn't approve. So I accepted that . But the only reason the guy was having sex with her is because she was like harassing him and he got tired of her calling him all the time and spying on him. (they only had sex like twice at my house) So he finally got tired of her and told her that he was interested in me and wanted to get to know me. So one night he came over and we all were watching a movie and he started hitting on me. My best friend got really mad because he was hitting on me not her. So there was this huge fight. Well lets just say we've been together ever since. Now to my question I would like to ask... how do you know if your GUY is cheating? But let me explain... He tells me all the time that he loves me and want to be with me but he does things that make me really suspicious. His ex girlfriends call him all the time and he answer's their calls or either calls them back. He is really sneaky about things too. He looks at porn on the computer all the time and tries to sneak it around. Yes, I know all guys look at porn but, I tell him that I don't like it when he looks at it and I wish it wouldn't do it. He also goes to the gym. When he comes back he's never sweaty or doesn’t even look like he has worked out. I am just very suspicious. I want to know if he is cheating so I can get out of this early before I get ruined. We have a checking account together and we also want to buy a car, and house together, but I don't want to do all this and ruin my credit. I want to get out before... if he is cheating...



I have a son and he's 1 that's also in this relationship. He looks at him like his dad. My boyfriend is so good with my son. I just want to know if he is cheating on me so I can get out of this relationship before we get to deep in to this and my son gets hurt also.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOUR BOYFRIEND IS CHEATING BEFORE YOU GET TOO DEEP INTO THE RELATIONSHIP AND OTHER'S GET HURT?

Man does not have sex with your girlfriend just because she's harassing him... what a lame excuse. I think you already know he's cheating... not too late to start over with someone else. Be wise...

I agree... From personal experience being cheated on... You need to go with that gut feeling. If something's feels wrong it probably is. That intuitive feeling is there for a reason.

I don't want to sound judgmental, but it seems like you guys have been together a really short time to be joining bank accounts and buying a house. So even if he isn't cheating I don't think it would hurt to slow down and take your time. If he's the right one, it will work regardless.

To me it looks like this guy is playing you, and I say this from seeing it happen to other girls. Do you really believe he was having sex with your friend because she was harassing him? He was having sex with her because he wanted to. I think that he was bored of your friend, so he tried getting with you. Eventually he'll get bored of you too and move onto someone else, or if he can have his side girls without you knowing then he'll do that. Let me say also that if he was really interested in you then he wouldn't be speaking to any of his ex-girlfriends. I say you leave now before you start to care deeper for him. Goodluck.