Hey, am female and I am 18. Recently I met a girl I haven't known her for that long about a few months, anyway we become really close in the past few months and one night after we had been out on the drink few of my pals were sleeping over, she ended up staying and we ened up sharing a bed, knothing happened we just hugged for most of the and it was fine. However this continued for a couple of weeks she would stay at mine or I would stay at hers, one time she was staying at mine she kissed me and we ened up kiss for a while then she pulled away and said she was sorry for kissin me. I was tottaly baffeled were just friends and were both girls! And how could anything come of this. But the next few times after that we would go out get drunk and end up kissin and huggin all night then next day thou it was like nothing happened at all... then one day when we were both sober we kissed and it was fine, but round our friends it was like nothing happened at all and we were just two people.
It was a week before she was leaving for uni we talked about how we felt for ages and she said she didn't want to move because of me. Then when she moved I was gutted and all I could think about was us and what happened I can't talk to any of our friends about it or anyone. I went to see her and same thing happened but she told me she we couldn't go on bcoz of th distance, and now its driving me crazy! She kissed me and all I can think about is her and if she thinks about me or w.e. do you think I will get over it? What should I do?

Is this the first time you've had any relations with a girl?

Do you still think of men? When you pass them on the street and you see an attractive one, do you turn back and look?

These are questions you want to ask yourself.

You could be interested in both sexes right now.

Are you sexually attracted to women in general, or is it just with this girl?

Are you sexually attracted to men in general?

If you are attracted to both (in general) is one of these attractions significantly stronger than the other?

Is this girl a lesbian? Is she openly bisexual?

Hey yea this is the first time I have been with a girl as in felt like this and kissed a girl. Well kissed and in its meant something, she's not bi or a lesbian she says she straight as well. I don't think am sexually attracted to women, I don't no maybe its just a phase and yea I find men attractive I recently spilt with my boyfriend and it wasn't the best break up. It was just so out of the blue I never even thought anything would happen and now it has, I can't stop think about it.

I so understand what you mean. I'm not sure where I stand either. On one hand you want to give in to these desires, but on the other your not sure where they came from in the first place.

You might just be Bi-curious... but if you are attracted and really like being with men you aren't a gay woman.

Gay people are both emotionally and sexually attracted to people of their own sex, the same as your average heterosexual person is to the opposite sex.

Unles you've actually done it and liked it you are at most curious... if you did and liked it but like guys too then you are bi...

Sounds to me like teen age experimenting... go about your life and have friends and relationships going forward. Have hobbies and sports to participate in... friends of all ages.

Don't ignore the huge RED FLAG in your life... you having to drink way too much in order to have sex. Get to a professional before you make too many mistakes and dig yourself into an emotional hole too deep to get out of.

Thanks for the advice. She just came home for the weekend, am pretty sure she has forgot all about this "thing" we had going for a few weeks, not the case for me... we went out clubbin and there's this guy who I have kind of beeen seeing were not official yet, its more like a working progress lol and when I was drunk she was like yea he's really nice and all the rest of it. And then she started talking about some guy she likes, truth is I reallly couldn't help but feel utterly crushed. Then When she was talking about the guy am sort of with, she asked me why we were'nt going out and I told her I wasn't sure if I should go out with him, and then I said he's not you. Fek knows why I said it. And she just kind of huged me and then went and got with this guy she's like, talked about heart break lol however we were boith extreemly drunk by this point. Should I talk to her? I would rather have her in my life as a pal and suffer feeling like this than loose her all toghther in my opinion. I thought life would just be average like average joe. Buttt noooooo lol what am I going to do!! Lol :confused:

I would relax a little bit. From my experience, the number of women who will admit to being bi-curious is VERY significant. I couldn't give you a percentage, but there are tons of women who are intrigued sexually by women but would never have a relationship with one. I do know (and can't find the study right now grr) that more women are aroused by female-female pornography than male-female pornography.

Hey don't know were to start really, firstly I am 17 and female, recently went on holiday with my pals this year I met a girl who came along with us and we really hit it off, when we got back home I really missed her. Anyway when we got home Lots of us clubbed it for a few weeks and that and me and this girl would always hug when we were out and she stayed at mine a few times as you do because my rents went away for a few weeks. And this one time she stayed over we ended up sharing a bed and kissing, somehow. Lol and this started to happen every time we went out and got drunk, she would stay at mine or a I would stay at hers, and we would talk about anything and just hug and kiss most of the night. It was a good three weeks we had I was actually happy. Thing is were both "straight" or claim to be, she is the type that you would never consider to do this kind of thing (sorry not trying to be steriotypical or anything) but like one of these average joe kind of people. She's pretty and quite well until you get to no her lol and a genuine person. I can't talk to my other friends about am telling you they would never believe it and even if they did what am I suppose to do then, it won't get me anywhere.

So anyway three weeks came by and she had to move I new it was coming, her college a while way so I would hardly get to see her. Last night I was with her, I told her I did'nt want her to go (as do) lol she did'nt want to move either. I new then nothing more would happen between us, when I went up to see her a month later it was different we weren't the same, she talked about the distance and stuff, I was gutted. She comes home now and again so I still get to see and talk to her. :) thing is she used to phone me a lot and text now she hardly reply's or phones. Maybe she thinks it was all a big drunken mess. All I no is am plodding along like a chimp unhappy and I miss her, it stupid. Am stupid, its been 3months just about! I can't even talk to her! I no she's forgotten all about it. Do you think she actually cared about me? Or was it really just a drunken mistake :( I wonder what would have happened if she stayed. Truth is am still crazy about this girl and it driving me insane. Any ideas or advice would be much appreciated. Feels like the day she left, most of me did to.

Thanks B'J x

At the time being, it sounds as if she was as sincere as you were. You both told each other everything, hugged and kissed, and spent a lot of time together, correct?

I'd say the only reason she is drifting, is because she did just that: Drift. Physically. It doesn't mean she no longer cares for you, and it doesn't mean she has forgotten, but maybe it just means she's busy. She left for college, so maybe she's too busy being stuck in class, working, and doing homework to talk to you all that often? I find this happening to myself with old friends. Some months I'm too busy for any social contact at all with any of them, let alone the friends I have that actually live here.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Just make an effort to keep in contact with her, because you wouldn't believe how much people change when they're cities apart.

As for the "gay or straight" portion, I'd say it was more so an experimental thing. Perhaps you are bisexual, as you are also attracted to males, correct? It could have been a moment of vulnerability as well.

Hope all goes well.

Hey ave had few boyfriends before, but recently when I have been getting drunk I have kept kissing the same girl, she's says she's straight as well but we kissed a few times when she stayed at mine, couple of months passed she moved for college and comes home now and again, but recently we went out clubing and ended up in the toilets for ages and were really passionatly kissing. We hang round in a big group and we haven't told any of our friends. So when we go out, its juts like nothings happened. And we never talk about it, every time I try she's like "i dont no" so my head is everywere. Now I can't stop thinking about it, I was kind getting over it. But then we kissed I was pretty into it. And now we just tottally act like nothins ever happened, it crazy. :S some adivie would be great :)

Hi, Banana_joe!

Well, how do you feel about this sort of thing if you haven't been drinking, please? People can do quite a lot of things that they wouldn't normally do, after they've had some drinks.

Thanks!

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Thanks!

Yeah I have kind of thought about it few times we have kissed when we were sober. But was like the next morning and wasn't for long, I would hate this to become arkward between us :(

Sounds like it is already arkward

Yes, you are probably bisexual. Seeing as there is basically no one who is a hundred percent straight... and the fact that you have considered doing this with a girl means you are flexible.

That being said, there's nothing wrong with that. Be comfortable with who you are and don't let your sexuality define you as so many people do.

hey, think ave tottalty screwed it up with my pal like, well were both girls and we ended up kissing a few times, been happening for about 5months now, we don't kiss evertime we go out just a few times, she moved to college so I haven't seen her that much, we have kissed a few times when she came home and now just had a big weekend away with a load of our pals, and she was tottaly weird with me, she wouldn't come anywere near me, wouldn't speak to me with out putting "Fuk off in the sentance" wasn't like I was trying it on or anything! And then all day she just got at me and diged me, its like she hates me. We normally just get on like nothings happened and were fine, she's never been like this before not to anyone and she such a nice person... well normally, its like she woke up and realised she hates me.

It hard enough getting on with things and not been able to talk to any of my friends about it. And the fact she's miles away! Its like every time I spoke what ever I said it was I was wrong, am trying to move on and forget it, but its hard when she's one of my best mates. Now I feel like ave totally lost her all together. Do u think she just needs sometime? And if so will we ever go back to just been "normal" ? =[

Sounds like she has moved off to college and is changing, Often we break with friends from high school after we go to college