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  • Nov 19, 2008, 03:26 PM
    ceejay04
    I done bad
    My girlfriend of 5 years is asking me to give her space we have a child together and I still love her and we live together,we have been arguing a lot and even fight I have done a lot of bad things to her but she has too, now since last week s arguiment she don't want to have sex with me or even stay at home she staying with her friend ( a neighbour) she said she loves me still but she want a break because I done her wrong too many times, but now that she is seriously trying to break up with me I have realised all the bad stuff I done to her or haven't done I haven't treated her right and I sat down and thought about it for a week I have been begging her to forgive me she said she accepts that she forgave me but she just wants space she insisted she don't want to break up forever because she still wants me but she wants me to treat her right and be a better boyfriend and spend more time doing the little things etc. the thing is I really want to try and be a better man for her but she telling me she don't want to live with me at the moment since last week I am still here trying to show her we can still make it work but she still wants her break just a few days etc. is the relationship over or should I go and do the things I should ve done in the first place now that I see where I was going wrong or just forget it I am not even sure if she still loves me I always thought a break is not normal I think a break is over is that the case? I want to know if I should just give up even if she saying she loves me and not to get another girl, she just needs that "space" but she been going out looking different she started doing her hair everyday and she never really do things like that but she changed even her body has changed she developed quickly she said she doing all this to teach me a lesson too because of the arguiments should I walk away? Or just give her her space and do what I need to do still ti win her back?I want to know if she just saying all this to keep me sweet ?if she really don't want me anymore and its not worth it trying all this please help me
  • Nov 20, 2008, 08:39 AM
    talaniman
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    Leave her alone, as you need space to deal with your own demons.

    How old are you two?
  • Nov 20, 2008, 08:50 AM
    carmex

    No doubt you need to give her some space and take a little breather.

    In my experience, women are usually very truthful and honest, especially when it comes to emotional or relational things. If she says she doesn't want to break up for good, there's a very high probability that she's telling the truth.

    I think you need to stop calling her, stop putting forth the "effort." I'm sure everyone has heard the "Action speaks louder than words."

    You need to put the ball in her court. If it were me, I would call her or email her or write her a short friendly letter in a calm and rational voice. State that you are genuienly sorry. Don't beg or plead or gush, just state that your eyes have been opened, and that you can see now the error of your ways.

    Tell her that you respect her and will give her the space she's asked for. Tell her that when she's ready you will be too. Let her make the decision to come back to you, and assure her that when she does, you'll be mindful of the things she has asked of you.

    Then do it.

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