How to cope with my alcoholic boyfriend
I need advice on how to cope with my alcoholic boyfriend.
He is 13 years older than me at 33 and this is a main issue in our relationship. While he has seen and experienced so much of lifes misfortunes I have only just began on lifes journey at 20 years old. He has been in the Armed forces and witnessed some pretty horrific things, he then became disabled at 23 after being badly tackled in a game of rugby where he now has 3 slipped disks in his back. He has recently came out of a 14 year old relationship, where he has 3 children 1 of which is deceased. During this relationship he was both physichally and mentally abused by his partner. In my opinion this has made him very depressed and although he is on medication for manic depression and severe anxiety they are not helping. Therefore he is turning to the drink.
His ex partner is still playing with his head in sending him abusive text messages and refusing to let him speak to the children which is just making him worse and there is the possibility that he may spend this xmas in prison.
I grew up in an alcoholic family where my stepdad was an alcoholic and could become very violent on times and I vowed to myself that I would never put upwith it or become aggressive and cause arguments as my mum so often did, however now I findmyself having the same arguments and repeating the behaviour with my boyfriend. This is ruining our relationship as I hate being in the pub or him drinking. However he feels that the pub is better than being at home getting more depressed. I an at the end of my teather and don't know what to do. I love him very much and want to be with him yet I find myself arguing with him and causing arguments but then I only end up hating myself for being so insensitive.
I really don't know what to do and feel that I have nobody to talk to as I constantly feel as if I am being judged by family and friends. Please help anybody
Thanks 4 listening to my rant XX:confused::confused: