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Is it all my fault

Six months ago, I had an abortion but did not tell my boyfriend until it was time for me to supposly have the baby ( yes I carried on for 9 months acting like I was still preggo). Okay my boyfriend found out because I acted like I was in the hospital until his mother called to the hospital that I was supposly at and found out that I really was not there. My boyfriend family hates me now because they were excited about having a baby. I have had thoughts about killing myself. After this situation happen everything was not the same but we were working on our relationship.Now, if I don't have what he wants meaning money or anything he gets upset and say you made me like this but when he gets what he wants everything is cool. This is the worst thing I have ever don in my life. When this happen he told me that he forgave me but now he says that he cant. Right know I am in a abusive relationship. He says that he hate me and that I am a hoe, and a f*** up because I killed our baby. But now I am 2 mnth pregnant with his baby and he does not want it..

Ok so that's just messed up it was your choice. It's natural for them to be pissed at you for lying to them but it should only go so far. My question to you is do you truly love this man?

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Originally Posted by amberlin69

Ok so that’s just messed up it was your choice. It’s natural for them to be pissed at you for lying to them but it should only go so far. My question to you is do you truly love this man?

I really do love him so much we have been together for 3 yrs..

It was extremely wrong of you to lie to him, we won't touch abortion because it was your decision. But you carried on for MONTHS that you were pregnant and then lied to his entire family about it, did you really expect them to be okay with that?

It is wrong that your boyfriend is treating you this way. I believe you got an abortion because you don't feel as though you are ready for a child, well why don't you start using PROTECTION. Now you're pregnant AGAIN, and he doesn't want it because you aborted the last one so he doesn't want to get his hopes up in case you decide to use it abortion as a form of BC again.

You need to decide what you want in life, do you want a child or not? They aren't etch a sketches, you can't just shake it off and re-do as you please

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

It was extremely wrong of you to lie to him, we won't touch abortion because it was your decision. But you carried on for MONTHS that you were pregnant and then lied to his entire family about it, did you really expect them to be okay with that?

It is wrong that your boyfriend is treating you this way. I believe you got an abortion because you don't feel as though you are ready for a child, well why don't you start using PROTECTION. Now you're pregnant AGAIN, and he doesn't want it because you aborted the last one so he doesn't want to get his hopes up in case you decide to use it abortion as a form of BC again.

You need to decide what you want in life, do you want a child or not? They aren't etch a sketches, you can't just shake it off and re-do as you please

I thank you for your honestly . I have not made it seem like it was not my fault but I take full responsiblily for what did and still is . I just want to start over because nothing is impossible. Its people out her in the world that have done worst things than me.

Well your deception didn't work and the fallout is sending you through all type of misery and pain, which is so fair.

Since you didn't learn from that mistake, take heed to this one, and do the right thing by yourself, your child, and him.

Deal with this in a straight honest way, no matter how difficult it will be.

Time to be honest, as you see what dishonesty got you.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Well your deception didn't work and the fallout is sending you thru all type of misery and pain, which is so fair.

Since you didn't learn from that mistake, take heed to this one, and do the right thing by yourself, your child, and him.

Deal with this in a straight honest way, no matter how difficult it will be.

Time to be honest, as you see what dishonesty got you.

Thank you for your honesty..

OK so yea it was wrong. But you need to make sure you are in a healthy relationship. Keep you child and try and make your family work. He will come around. I am sure deep down he really loves you but he's hurt.