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  • Nov 19, 2008, 01:19 AM
    sasha2888
    why r guys so confusing?
    Ok so I was in a relationship with a guy that I loved since the day we meet. We had so much in common it was to good to be true. The only problem was since the day we started going out we had people trying to control our relationship and break us up. It was all drama... It was really hard because some of our friends didn't like me and some didn't like my boyfriend for whatever reason and they always made up stuff, like I cheated on my boyfriend or he cheated on me. But that never happened. It really affected our relationship all the time because when we would hear these things we would believe it at first because y would people just make random up right and that would cause us to fight all the time and break up. Well anyway I became pragnant after a few months of going out with my boyfriend, we were so happy but it seemed as if we couldn't ever let go of what people were saying, now after being together for 2 years my boyfriend decided to break up with me, which doesn't make any since because we we're. Doing fine. I mean we would fight here and there but nothing big. And all he tells me is that he broke up with me because he's tried of trying... I don't get it after all this time he decides that he doesn't want to be with me when were doing good I don't get it. And I tell him I love him and I want to be with him and I know he loves me to I can see it, and it sucks we still like together but were not together and I don't understand y. What can I do? I need help getting the man I love back. I can't loose him. When I ask him if we can be together he says we will see what happens in the future. But y the future y not know. And he talks to his exs all the time and hangs out with girls while I sit at home with our son. I don't know what to do. I don't want to move on I want to be with him and make everything work.. Please help!
  • Nov 19, 2008, 03:25 AM
    myaddiction_

    First I'm going to say I'm sorry about what happened. That's horrible. And second, I've been in this situation before (except I wasn't pregnant.) my boyfriend broke up with me after a year and a half of us being together. I begged and begged for him to come back, but nothing seemed to work. After awhile, I got tired of chasing after him. And about two months later (of me not calling him every minute of everyday, and always concerned about what he was doing) he came back to me, telling me what a fool he was for leaving. It just takes time, hun. That's all I can say, but I hope it helps some.
  • Nov 19, 2008, 04:10 AM
    NallaNeedsYou

    It is very sad that you are in this situation and I hope more people will post to help you through it. In my opinion the people who were trying to break you up were proabably jelouse. Don't be clingy and try not to let it worry you - if you let it worry you it will affect your son and I know my parents argue and it tears me up listnening to their arguments. I think that if he is the one you just need to be patient but if he isn't it is for the best. Keep busy, take up something different and if he is isn't the one, your relationship is not something that needs to bother you. Keep positive and be patient.
  • Nov 20, 2008, 09:15 AM
    talaniman
    Sorry for your problems, but your best plan is child support and get a life that makes you happy without him.

    You may be the mother of his kids, but he is not yours exclusively.

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