Hi my name sjoel my girl friend has recently said she wanted to break up 4 now.reasons 4 thisan this is I was 2 busy thinking about myself and not thinking about is she having fun 2.im 19 and this has being my first real serious girl friend.now we have broken up I can see that it wasn't perfect an that at times I wasn't treating her rite.since than she's said she still loves me so much but she just neds space for the time being.she doesn't want to get back together until she sees changes.I understand this completely and I am going to make changes because I love her.how am I spose to show her I'm making changes if she needs space?she tells me when she sees me she wants to kiss me and hold me but she can't because itl confuse her.I feel as if she's trying to convince her self it's the rite thing to do even though she keeps telling her self its not.I can tell she wants me what do I do

OK when you are trying to change like try to talk to her about your feelings toward her.and if she really wants space then just first tell her that I need to show yoou how I can change but if you need space then I can't get your attention =] GOOD LUCK =]

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How am I spose to show her I'm making changes if she needs space?

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You don't. You be yourself, and someone will appreciate who you are, and not what someone, wants you to be.

Another thing... don't change because you want her back. Change because you know it is the right thing to do. Change because it makes YOU a better person. Her taking you back is secondary to you bettering yourself. By making yourself better you can impact the rest of your life. This is the first think I learned when my and my ex broke up. I want to make myself better, not because of her, but because I need to.