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  • Nov 18, 2008, 01:52 PM
    mkkeiter
    Confused and hurt
    I have a neighbor whom I've become very fond of. We have spent a lot of time together the past several months. He is flirty with me but when we shared our first kiss (he said I totally turned him on) he was all about Im really not looking to be in a relationship and is freaked out about us living across the street. I know he finds me attractive but Im shocked because we had our 2nd kissing encounter I even belly danced with quite a sexy outfit on. He took pictures but nothing happened. He is like still all freaked out about the neighbor thing. I guess I've never had a man turn down sex so its quite mind boggling. We talked and he said Im a very attractive woman but he is really not looking and the neighbor thing freaks him out. I keep thinking if he really liked me that wouldn't matter we are adults and I don't have a problem with it. He said he has to think with his big head!
  • Nov 18, 2008, 03:28 PM
    plonak

    He keeps bringing up that it bothers him that you both live close to each other because if he ever hooks up with you and then decides to drop you, he still has to see you in the neighborhood.. and if he brings home another girl to hook up with, he proly will think that you're going to see him and b!tch him out.. this guy has PLAYER written all over him

    I suggest you stay away from this guy.. he seems like trouble..
  • Nov 19, 2008, 07:25 AM
    mkkeiter
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    Originally Posted by plonak View Post
    he keeps bringing up that it bothers him that you both live close to each other becasue if he ever hooks up with you and then decides to drop you, he still has to see you in the neighborhood.. and if he brings home another girl to hook up with, he proly will think that you're going to see him and b!tch him out.. this guy has PLAYER written all over him

    I suggest you stay away from this guy.. he seems like trouble..

    Thank you for the quick response. I just feel so sad. I mean I danced in front of him and he turned me down. I guess in a way he was showing me some respect. He could have totally taken advantage of me. Its just that these feelings I have for him are strong and I don't know how to get past it. Rejection sucks.
  • Nov 19, 2008, 11:41 AM
    plonak

    You can be his friend, but as you said your feelings for him are strong, so more than likely if you continue to hang out with him you're just going to continue to feel crappy and rejected..

    I know rejection sucks... but you need to be a grown up about this and move on.. it happens to the best of us..

    My suggestion is that you don't see him as much and don't be alone with him, because your temptations will get to the best of you..

    Move on and meet worthwhile people..
  • Nov 20, 2008, 08:53 AM
    talaniman

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    He said he has to think with his big head!
    He is right, so back off, and give him respect.

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    I've never had a man turn down sex so its quite mind boggling
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