Me him and her (reposted with more info)
Okay, to begin, I'm a woman.
I became friends with a man about a year and a half ago, our friendship strengthened overtime, sometimes leading to blurring these 'friend' lines over the past year or thereabouts. I was in a relationship with a woman at the time (yes I know that isn't right but it's the way it is) and cheated on her with him. I have recently, in the past 2-3 months broken up with her and have been with this man a few times since, but with nothing particularly pertinent coming of it.
We all used to work in the same bar, I have now stopped working there. My ex and this man don't particularly get on all that well and never have. Though I suspect on her part, at least, its because she may have had suspicions.
I want to know whether it is advisable to pursue this relationship with this man, even though I do really like him, because of all of the complications.
Also do you think I was simply used by him? Considering that nothing has really come of our being together since.
Do you think maybe it was some sort of fantasy thing? i.e. once he could have me with the doors all open he didn't want me
Or do you think that he's just taking it slow?
I know you don't know this guy or anything but what's most likely...
If anyone has any other suggestions or comments Id like to hear them too.. just confused about the whole situation
Thanks.