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  • Nov 16, 2008, 07:57 PM
    andydall
    Friend vs. Boyfriend
    My friend asked me out 2 years ago, and I kind of rudely turned him down...
    It is now obviously 2 years later... and I really like him...
    I don't know what to say or how to act, because last time when he asked me out it made things so awkward and everythings finally back to normal between us...
    I just wanted to know if anyone had any idea what I should do...
    I know its kind of a big question but I just thought maybe someone had had a similar situation.
    ~thank youz
    :)
  • Nov 16, 2008, 08:03 PM
    friend4u178

    So does he still like you?
  • Nov 16, 2008, 08:07 PM
    andydall

    That's the problem, I don't know, and I'm afraid to ask, cause like I said last time stuff like that came up it got REALLY awkward between us..
  • Nov 16, 2008, 08:12 PM
    friend4u178

    Well he made the move last time so he will probably be reluctant to try again fearing the same response.

    I think you should maybe mention to him that you were a little harsh last time and possibly made a mistake by refusing him. This will stir his curiosity.
  • Nov 16, 2008, 08:17 PM
    andydall

    Lol, thank you
    Guess I just got to step up and say something...
    Your right though, its my turn to make the first move... *crosses fingers* well, hopein for the best!
  • Nov 16, 2008, 08:34 PM
    friend4u178

    Good Luck!

    And let us know how you got on :)
  • Nov 16, 2008, 08:39 PM
    andydall

    Kk, will do
    Thank youz!
  • Nov 16, 2008, 09:03 PM
    andydall

    anymore suggestions are appreciated though =P
  • Nov 16, 2008, 09:58 PM
    xxariesxx
    friend4u178 is right. Tell him you were thinking about it and regretted reacting so harshly when he told you he had feelings for you.

    Are you worried about how he would react to you now if you told him your feelings? You still remained friends even though it was awkward for awhile, right? Well I don't see why that would change even if you told him your feelings. As long as you're both single, go for it.
  • Nov 17, 2008, 05:53 PM
    andydall

    Lol, thanks and... he feels the same way too!! *SQUEALS*
    I talked to him today... omg...
  • Nov 17, 2008, 06:01 PM
    jjwoodhull
    If it has taken this long for him to get over the rejections then I would assume 2 things - that he still likes you and that he will not put himself in that vulnerable position again. That means it's up to you.

    But he might still be worried about getting hurt. So you should take the time to explain that you feel bad that you were rude to him in the past and that you have matured since then. Appologize for hurting his feelings and assure him that you will not intentionally hurt him again.

    Good luck - let us know how it goes.

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