I know my ex still likes me,but I don't necessarily know if he wants a relationship right now. We've been talking a lot. He does so many things to show that he still has strong feelings for me. But I'm getting sick of waiting around for him to decide what he wants. We've been broken up for about 2 months. Yet everyday we still flirt with each other?

Should I stop talking to him, even though we've been talking a lot? I know it'll hurt me to follow NC but would that let him make up his mind?

Or should I let him know that I miss him? Would that give him the green light?

I don't think you should be made to wait around for him to make the first move, it isn't fair to you. All you can do is tell him how you feel and let him take as he wants to. Its how you feel about him, and its truth, one of the most important aspects of a successful relationship. And telling him the truth is at least a step in the right direction of a relationship between you.

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Originally Posted by white-rose

I don't think you should be made to wait around for him to make the first move, it isn't fair to you. All you can do is tell him how you feel and let him take as he wants to. Its how you feel about him, and its truth, one of the most important aspects of a successful relationship. And telling him the truth is at least a step in the right direction of a relationship between you.

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But after I tell him how I feel about him, how long should I wait for him until I give up and move on? He keeps on flirting with me, but isn't saying anything about wanting to be together.

I would sit down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Tell him that talking to him and seeing each other (I'm guessing that you still see each other) is just making things harder for you so if that's not what he wants that you should give each other some space. If you don't talk about these things it's just going to eat you up inside.

On a side note though, why did you break up? Have the two of you addressed that? Or taken care of whatever situation caused it? If not it's probably not a good idea to get back together yet or at all.

You'll never reach a good decision while you allow him to flirt, and talk to you, as evident by your confusion now.

He hasn't made a move yet, so he is probably waiting on you, to cave and come to him. That's your choice of course, but I doubt you get what you want. I mean, what has changed since the break up, other than some intense confused feelings, that make you miss what you had. Have the issues been resolved through all that talk and flirting?

If not, you need no contact, so you can make better decisions for yourself, based on FACTS, and not just feelings.

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Originally Posted by dahlialine

but after I tell him how I feel about him, how long should I wait for him until I give up and move on? He keeps on flirting with me, but isn't saying anything about wanting to be together.

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That's the thing though, you shouldn't wait at all. After you tell him how you feel, he should give you a straight answer. If he wants to have a relationship or not. He shouldn't make you wait, and if he tries I wouldn't.

We broke up because he thought he wasn't good enough for me :/ I think I pushed him into it in a way because everything was going so crappy for me that I cried everyday and was just difficult to deal with? He took the blame all onto himself. I said some things I didn't mean.

After we broke up he didn't talk to me for a while, then I told him how I felt and said sorry and explained that I didn't mean what I said. He started talking to me more and more. I think the feelings for both of us never went away.

I've made it clear to him that the ball's in his court and I'm willing to give this another try. But he hasn't given me a straightforward answer.

I don't want to keep asking and seem too pushy?

Be careful... remember Newton's law... for every action, there is an opposite reaction. You push and he may pull away more.

If you have truly sat down and told him exactly how you feel, then he knows and he doesn't need a reminder. I would give him some space. It seems like he's seeking some peace and clarity... He probably needs time to get over the past and "forgive" himself for things that have happened.

If you haven't actually spelled it out for him, give it a couple of weeks. You say you guys talk a lot still, so there's a connection that he's not able to break with you... so there are still some options.. don't torture yourself waiting for him though. Things like that can take a very long time.

Because I decided I was going to try to move on, lately I've been acting a little less affectionate towards him. He in return has started to act the same way and stopped talking and seeing me as much. :/ Now I realize I really miss him again.

Should I try to talk to him more and keep it going, or is this just the first step to getting over him?

Remember I don't really want to get over him. Many people think he still likes me, I feel like there might be a chance for us but I don't know what's the best to do. I'm just really confused.

I don't see much point in keeping this thing going when he doesn't show that much interest. It really sounds as if your doing all the work and he gets the benefits. That's NOT FAIR, OR EQUAL.