How do you deal with the pain of a 33 year old son who walks out of your life because he blames you for ruining his relationship with a girl he thought he would marry? There is a little more to the story but she was very shallow or more going on which I believe between them. I went to an outing and had been drinking and my son was not use to seeing me drinking. His father was killed by a drunk driver and I never drank. He was angry with me. I guess his girlfriend became angry and dug into my past and yes, I had been in therapy and had some issues with his death of course. Now my son has not talked to me over 16 months. When he came to my house to confront me, he was very angry and came with my other son and my husband knew they were coming and I felt so set up. I felt my husband betrayed me. He has his own issues with porno but that is something beyond this. I have communication with my older son and daughter but none with the son who is angry. I am devastated. Anyone have any answers?

Wow. Sounds like there's a lot more to this story. Was there something you said or did while you were drinking? Why did the girlfriend become angry? And what business did she have digging into your past? What was the confrontation about? What exactly was he confronting you on? I'm just trying to figure out where he's coming from.

There is a lot more to this story I am sure, but right now we need to deal with your pain.
This seems to be getting more and more common. Grown children are blaming parents more for there lives not being what the grown child thinks it should be.
Just know that you are not alone and maybe while you are figureimg this thing out, there may be a support group that you can attend.
Many others have this problem amd maybe you can find some answers there.