I have a boyfriend I have been with for about 4 1/2 years. We both lived together and my brother moved in with us after his break up. My boyfriend stopped paying bills when my brother lost his job and they left me hanging with the bills. Not only did they leave me hanging they became best of friends and was always gone with each other and I seemed real lonely and tired. So I moved. Left them both behind and started over. Well, my boyfriend would come over occasionally but he always was in a hurry to get back home. Then bills starting piling up out where they stayed and my boyfriend has been here every since. He is doing the same thing here and I don't know what to do. He always is worried about me getting more money then "what he owes" from him. The thing about it is... I was getting a little support from my mother before he barged in and now she has cut that out and he is still just giving me what he wants to. I really don't want him here but he has no where else to go. I care about him but he does not want to grow up. He's always giving his brother and mother money and I find out about it way later. Its not like he makes enough to do that with. What should I do?

Yes, he is a user.

Give him an ultimatum, help with the bills or leave (or I'll leave)

If you know that he won't grow up then why continue wasting your time with him and putting yourself through hardship?

Kick him out and don't let him back in your life because don't you think you can do better?

He will never grow up if you keep allowing him to use you.

You say you care about him but it sure doesn't sound like he returns the favour.