Hello every one I am 23 years old and I have been married for 5 years now and we have
3 wonderful children. Our love life is great but we have tried a lot of different things and
I have still never had an orgasm!! I really would like to have one cause I want to feel
What my husband is feeling. He tries to make it the most wonderful thing for me but I just can't seem to get there. Is there anyone out there that can help me with this.

Only 23 years old -- please just take your time and not think about it it will come you have many years to go with the same man

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Originally Posted by sweetkittie

Hello every one I am 23 years old and I have been married for 5 years now and we have
3 wonderful children. Our love life is great but we hav tried a lot of differant things and
I have still never had an orgasim!!!! I really would like to have one cause I want to feel
what my husband is feeling. He tries to make it the most wonderful thing for me but I just can't seem to get there. Is there anyone out there that can help me with this.

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Everyone has to learn somewhere. Nobody starts knowing it all. The male orgasm is easy. The female orgasm has to be learned.

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It's not uncommon. What might be useful is that women tend to have orgasims from fellatio and masturbation much easier than with penetration.

Ahh the female orgasm! This by far is my favorite topic.

If you can't make yourself orgasm, it will be harder for your partner to achieve this also. My suggestion is to find what works for you. Take what you learn and apply it with your partner in the bedroom.

If you need some tips to get started I am sure I can help you.

Actually orgasm from penetration is nearly impossible for most women, and no wonder, as the vagina is not the source of female pleasure.

You're still very young
I just experienced this not too long ago.
It will happen sooner or later, just try not to think of it too much and it will happen when you least expect it
And it also is true that if you can't please yourself and can't find your weak spots then how would your partner do that?

You should try experimenting on yourself first. Maybe try a viberator and if it seems to work use it with your husband. Try focusing on your clitorus the most, since most women have the easiest time orgasming from there.

I don't think your age has anything to do with it. I had my first orgasm at 15.

Maybe start by trying to orgasm on your own. This is how I did it at 15:

I used the falling water in the tub. I propped my but up against the end of the tub and so that the running water from the tub faucet was falling right on to my clitoris. It worked better when the water was a tad warm. Not too warm.
It was best when the water was softly running. Just make sure it is hitting your clitoris.

If you achieve an orgasm alone, it may help you with your husband.

Also, I get most of my orgasms by being on top because of the pressure of the penis and the rubbing on the clitoris.

I think at this point you have to get a vibrator and masturbate and learn what an orgasm feels like.

Arrange to have the kids at a babysitter a couple of times a week and have time for yourself. Kids are a real sex killer.