Listen I'm totally lost as to why this hapend. It starts of like this I heard this girl liked me right well I asked her to homecoming and she said yes when we got there I was chillen wit her and you no I had my arm around her and we were holding hands blah blah I asked her out and she said I don't know and so l8ter she says oh just friends explain this too me please!

Nobdy?

She may have just changed her mind and thought being friends would be better. There's nothing wrong with that, we all have to get to know people and spend time with them to know if we are compatible with each other or not. There's nothing wrong with you or her.

So don't worry about it. She just wants to be friends, that's it, leave it alone. Spend time with friends and if you find another girl you like, then try things with her.

Umm OK..

Please do us old timers a favor. In the future do not use txt msgng
It is impossible for us old people to follow. Use plane language.
After your date I would have to assume that she decided you were not as great as she initially thought. Move on.

But you see, it doesn't make sense she said no to me and then she was crying

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but you see, it doesnt make sense she said no to me and then she was crying

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It's not up to you to figure out her emotions. She said no, end of story. You're only going to drive yourself crazy if try to decode what she really means.

She can speak for herself, you told her how you feel, that's all you can do.

I agree with aries. If she has mixed feelings over you then let her sort them out, and don't nag her. I'm assuming this is a girl you know from school and if so then you should still talk to her, there's no sense in losing a friendship over this. This type of thing happens with everyone, its lust, otherwise known as a crush.
You already have your feelings in order, give her time to get hers in order.

OK guys I asked her friend about the whole thing today and she said she did like me and that she didn't expect me to ask her @ homecoming. Could it be that the girl was surprised by me asking?

smitttyx2 disagrees: I didn't ask you for that I asked u 4 an answer don't have one don't say anything

What's your problem? I HAVE been giving you answers and trying to help you. Just because you don't like my response doesn't give you a reason to give me a bad mark.

My entire point, and answer to your question, has been that she told you she was not interested (no matter what her friend says!) and that it's better if you move on and not try to figure out how she really feels or not. She's a big girl, she can communicate that.

"She can speak for herself, you told her how you feel, that's all you can do."
That IS an answer. You told her how you feel, that's all you can do. She told you she isn't interested, so don't listen to her friends.
Next time think before you give someone a bad mark.

I stand by everything I said.

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ok guys i asked her friend about the whole thing today and she said she did like me and tht she didnt expect me to ask her @ homecoming. could it be that the girl was suprised by me asking?

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All right I do want to help you here, just don't give me a bad mark for trying :\

She could have been surprised, yes. You said that when you first talked to her she said "I don't know?" and then later she said she just wanted to be friends. But after that she started crying? So you think she may have implied she regretted saying that or didn't mean it?

It sounds like it's complicated for her. Instead of talking to her friend, maybe you could call her or sit down with her somewhere and ask her once and for all. Say, "Hey, I know you said you just wanted to be friends, but I kind of got the impression that you felt differently from your actions. How do you really feel?"
If she still says she just wants to be friends, then okay - let it go and don't worry about trying to figure out her emotions anymore.

Is she confused or going through any hardship at the moment that you know of? I've been in a similar situation where I was very close to a girl, and when I asked her out she said she was confused and couldn't give me a answer - she had a lot of problems on her plate at the time.

Thing is, I took that as a polite 'no', although given a week later she was crying at the fact she'd said no. Fast forward 4 years and we're still very good friends, but nothing more. It sort of fizzled out after that.

Don't rush into it, give her time. If her friends are saying she's interested then she probably is. Perhaps she's just afraid to approach the situation. Also if she's been hurt in the past, she's probably just making she's certain before she makes the big commitment.

M

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ok guys i asked her friend about the whole thing today and she said she did like me and tht she didnt expect me to ask her @ homecoming. could it be that the girl was suprised by me asking?

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Okay I thought maybe she just wanted a date so she could go to homecoming, but with this I would say she was caught up in the moment with homecoming and didn't want to think beyond that point. You know like she is at something she never wants to end and you are bringing her back to reality with thinking about something later AFTER the event.
So now she has had time to move on in her thoughts, feelings, plans and so forth so find a chance to ask her out again.