I have two boys by my ex boyfriend for high school. I was fifteen when I had my first and seventeen when I had my second. My did put him on the birth certificate, because I was told it would help get child support. I dropped the child support over two years ago, and he said he would leave us alone. I am married now and they all have adjusted to each other. My ex now won't stop calling. My question now is does he have any rights to my boys? He never wanted them and he has never had anything to do with them since they were born. One is 10 and the other is 9, and never once has he helped. I would really like any kind of information possible.

I'm not a legal expert, but I think it's time you consult a lawyer. He is their biological father.

Maybe he realized what he missed out on by denying his children. This could be a very important thing for your children. Unless their father is a threat to their well being, I think that having him in their lives will only benefit them.

Don't make any decisions based on anger, think about what's best for your children.

Good luck.

You stated that you dropped child support two years ago so did he pay his child support regularly each month and on time before this?

Have your husband and you ever talked about him adopted your kids? Also, when their father calls does he discuss interest in his kids life or just want to bother yours because you moved on? Lately, does the kids know who he is?

He never paid child support regularly, we went to court a lot to try and get him to at least help out some, every time we went though he tried to have it reduced. I only got 182 for both. My husband and I have talked about adoption,but we can't afford the attorney. My ex doesn't know that I am married, I don't see were it is any of his business, he left me and our first son tthree months after he was born. We got back together a couple of months later which developed into our second son. He did not want neither of the boys he even begged me to have our second child aborted. When he does call he just calls to make sure I'm not going back after him for anything, he never asks how they are doing. I got so tired of it I just let voicemail do its job, and yes they know who their father is, but they don't want anything to do with him. Their stepfather is more of a father than my ex will ever be he loves them as his own flesh and blood. You can't find many men who are like that, but I did.

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Originally Posted by liz28

You stated that you dropped child support two years ago so did he pay his child support regularly each month and on time before this?

Have your husband and you ever talked about him adopted your kids? Also, when their father calls does he discuss interest in his kids life or just want to bother yours because you moved on? Lately, does the kids know who he is?

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Yes, your right when you said that you can't find a man that would not only accept your kids but treat them like his own. So you are lucky and I am glad that you found him.

Maybe you should bring up the subject of him signing his rights away especially since your husband is willing to adopt, but in most states you have to be married for at least one year. I know it might be hard but if anything save up for a lawyer.

Yes he still has rights and merely has to go to court to get visititation and other rights.
A Child custody agreement.

If you have a child support agreement start enforcing it, call child support enforcement, threaten to put him in jail if he does not pay.

Then he will be a lot more willing to sign over his rights to allow your new husband to adopt.

But if you have never got a child support order, enver got a child custody order and he is on the birth certificate he has all the same legal rights as you do, toward the children.