My boyfriend broke up with me about three and a half weeeks ago over the phone. He told me he's been feeling about this for a while, and that I was a hard person to get through to. We had a big fight first and din't talk for a while. I figured if I gave him his space then he would realize that we are good for each other and things aren't that bad. I called him and we got together to see if we could work it out. We spent a couple of days together and it to me seemed really good, we were laughing, went shopping, went to visit his sister. He obviously didn't feel the same way:( I didn't feel like there was any closure. He just got really mad o n the phone and it ended so abruptly. I think I should just continue with my everyday activities but I miss him terribly. I want to talk to him but I'm afraid if I call he'll just ask me what I want or... I don't know I'm scared it's over forever.

It's called No Contact for a reason, you don't need him in your life. The only person you need is yourself, remember that. Cut off all contact with him and start healing. You are only delaying the healing by talking to him

I think you had the right idea at first by giving him space and letting him realize your good for each other, stick with that idea, I wouldn't go along calling him and everything. You will be fine, it's weird how life works itself out.

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I think I should just continue with my everyday activities but I miss him terribly. I want to talk to him but I'm afraid if I call he'll just ask me what I want or... I don't know I'm scared it's over forever.

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You already have the right idea, leaving him alone, and going strict NO CONTACT!

All you need to do Girl is pay attention to yourself and things will have a funny way of happening for you. I'm in a similar situation and you can't sit around and wait forever. Do things for you. :)

I don't really know I've never really been on the end of breaking up, and whether I'm getting pushed farther or farther away or realizing that you need that person in your life but, to answer your question who knows, it could go both ways your basically asking a question that he probably doesn't even have the answer to yet, probably the whole reason for the separation, the way I see it is, if he can't realize that he needs you in his life by himself without influences negative, or positive then he's not right or good enough for you and your love.