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  • Nov 12, 2008, 08:49 AM
    chelicious
    What should you do if your husband is a mama's BOY?
    I'm married to a mama's boy and I'm not happy...
    His decisions are based on whether mama approves or not.
    He is a college graduate, but don't want to work,don't want to find a nice job, because he is like a helper in their house, he does gardening, cleaning the house, cooking and there's more he helps his mother in their small business... but we have already 3 kids, and I'm working because the money that her mother giving him is not enough, to support our children's needs...
    I'm so tired of working, and I want to take care of my children, but bul... how can I stop working?
    He's the only one doing this, his siblings don't care about anything, and they don't help their mother like he do...
    When I'm sick he don't care... but when his mother is sick, he don't know what to do... HELL!
    His mother will not drink his medicine if he is not around... bul!:confused:
  • Nov 12, 2008, 10:01 AM
    talaniman
    Was he like this when you married him? Have you expressed this to him? What is his reaction?

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...nd-279532.html

    How will cheating help this situation, since you can't get a divorce? Why don't you just leave then?? Can you?
  • Nov 12, 2008, 10:05 AM
    450donn

    Basically I would tell him you are quitting to take care of his kids and that he will have to get a job or starve. He has to make some adult decisions and this is the first one you need to force on him.
  • Nov 12, 2008, 10:08 AM
    LifeChangesMan
    Have you ever just simply told him to wake up and look around and see what he's doing with his life? I would try speaking with him and telling him of his ways. Then start thinking of consequences to his actions.
  • Nov 12, 2008, 10:12 AM
    chelicious

    Yes I did everything, I talked to him, I cried every, but still!. no reaction!
    Thanks talaniman..
  • Nov 12, 2008, 10:13 AM
    chelicious
    Every night
  • Nov 12, 2008, 10:15 AM
    chelicious
    I can't I love him but I'm not happy... I can't decide... help me...
  • Nov 12, 2008, 10:16 AM
    chelicious
    Thanks to all...
    Thanks for the time... and advice
  • Nov 12, 2008, 10:26 AM
    talaniman

    Is there a reason you haven't answered my question, as to your culture. I know of none that do not have a way of airing marital complaints.
  • Nov 12, 2008, 10:31 AM
    LifeChangesMan
    If you tried to talk it out, take action. Action speaks louder then words they say.

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