I am a RN for the past 27 years--I work every other weekend. On my weekends off I would like to do things with my spouse--ride bikes, go to museums, great dining , or just look at the lake by us. Since his father passed 2 years ago--he has turned into a verbally abusive person--he wants to just whole himself up in our bedroom and watch college football on Saturday and professional on Sunday!--he is mean and angry if I convince him to go out for lunch! "I work all week hard--so I deserve to enjoy my weekends the way I want to"!--Now before I get responses that my husband is depressed--we tried the prozac route--"I dont need medication"--or responses why don't you do things by yourself--I could --I have friends and a mother living in town--but we(my husband and I) are only off together from our jobs 4 days a month(the two weekends off)--I still want to have fun with my husband or what's the point of having him. Is this what happens when people are together 25 years?

As a health care professional you of all people should know the signs of depression. Unless you can get him some help or he wants to get help I think you are at the end. Time to give him the options, get professional help or get out!

He'd get an ultimatum from me. What is more important to him, a healthy life, facing the world and a good relationship or watching boys play with their balls? He's hiding, probably scared. Poor thing.

See if you can agree, one weekend off you and he go to the front room, watch TV Football together, sometimes invite friends over to watch I with you two. On the other, he goes with you somewhere.

If he will not even do that, well my wife would have cut the TV cable.

But if he has changed to be abusive, then it is a metal issue and he does need help

Enjoy yourself without him, and see if being left behind gets him out of his funk.

But then again, he sounds like so many other guys on the weekend, doesn't he?

Even if you convinced him to go out with you he would still be taking his miserable attitude right along with him! Can you enjoy that?
I agree with Talaniman sounds like you really need to go out and have a good time with your friends until he misses you and decides that if he wants time with you he will need to go out with you.
If he doesn't then maybe it is for the best since you can't make him enjoy himself.