I fell for a girl in a long distance relationship way too fast and now I'm heartbroken because I'm not sure she will pick me. But I can't stand the fact that I am the other guy and she puts me on hold to be with him. Even though I am the one putting in the work for the most part because I am local she still made it clear that she wants to make it work with him. But she still looks for me and shows interest and says she really likes me a lot. Does she want to keep me as an option? Were so great together, sex is awesome and we both feel crazy about each other but she still doesn't know what she wants. I never felt like this before. She says were both amazing but I'm the wild and crazy one, the bad guy but I show her my good side also. I feel like I'm hurting myself and I don't want that but at the same time I don't want to give up on her either. What should I do?

Get out of her life! Do you really want to be with a girl who puts you on the back burner? She is taken, so live with it and move on. She isn't the only girl out there. This isn't fair to anyone, especially her current boyfriend. What a selfish person she is... good thing she will have you waiting around once she dumps the guy she is with.

You're her bad boy that she gets a thrill out of having sex with and getting her bodily pleasures taken care of, the boyfriend is her emotional care taker.

The most you can hope for out of this is what you're getting, but since you want more I'd bail out now, otherwise you are in for a lot of hurt. I guarantee you, she'll go for the next bad boy even if she is with you.

You are hurting yourself, and helping her cheat, and let her use you, while her boyfriend is unavailable.

Dude if you can't leave her alone, and stop this boy toy with benefits, you get what you deserve.

May I remind you that running head first into a brick wall, will bust your head open?

If she cheats on him, she will cheat on you. DUH!!

Both you guys are her chumps, sorry but its true. That's what happens when you think with the little head!

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If she cheats on him, she will cheat on you. DUH!!

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I have to completely agree with what's being said in these posts, but especially with this quote. I've found it to be true, from personal experience, as well as watching friends go through the same senario.
Get out of the relationship now. Don't wait for her to break it off, or her boyfriend to find out. You need to be strong and just leave the situation. Period!