After four years together my wife still asks me to tell her I love her. Not just once or twice a week but almost on a daily basis. I am missing something here because I am not sure what is the cause.

Part of me thinks it is insecurity because she is 50 and I am 34 but age means nothing to me and she knows it.

It means something to her, so just do it.

Its not a big deal, or too much trouble is it?

It means a lot to her. What's the problem?
I think its pretty sweet :)

Maybe she just didn't hear it a lot growing up, or maybe she heard it all the time.
We are either taught that saying I love you is okay, or we are taught that saying I love you is not okay.

Does your family say it a lot to each other? If so, maybe she just wants to fit in. If not, that could be the reason you don't understand it.

No matter the reason, she obviously just wants to hear you say it. Some people find it reassuring. My husband does the same thing, and as corny and inappropriate as it may be at times, I simply oblige... because I really do love him.

Insecurity, maybe. But even so, if your holding back or making her feel like she is forcing you to say it, in my opinion, that is only going to make her feel more insecure.

Its not that I have touble saying it. It just seems excessive. Not like once or twice a week but more like three or four times a day. It makes me feel insecure like she didn't believe me the first time.

You just need to let her know in every way that you can think of that you do love her. There is usually a reason why women feel this way. It could just be her past, a dependent personality, poor self esteem, or something that you are not doing or of course that you are. Of course she could be picking up feelings that you are not sincere in your intentions. Women do have intuition into such matters.

If it bothers you that much.. then you say I love her once in a day

And she goes oh tell me again.

Say.. the more I tell you the less meaningful it becomes :)

I agree, if it means that much to her, just do it. Excessive? But sweet. Besides isn't that the way a relationship should be like? Loving and caring? This world needs more of it.

From experience, it's not much trouble. You don't want to lose her and think back, if only I had just said it more often and how easy it is.

Show her anyway you can, you love her. I am missing my man, and I haven't heard from him since he emailed me Thursday. Would do anything to hear the words I love you, or baby, it's all good, don't worry so much.

She shouldn't have to ask you to say it. You should be saying it more than she needs to hear it.

Everyone wants to feel loved, or to know they are loved by someone. It doesn't matter if she is insecure or not, she likes hearing it... who doesn't?

So just tell her you love her, as much as you do. Whenever you look at her and get that warm and tingly feeling, your next words should be "I love you"...

if you love her wouldn't you want to say it every chance you got?? I say just do it.. don't force yourself but try to say it as much as she wants no matter what her reasons are for wanting it.. =)

Actions behind the words, would be even better, as never take your wife for granted.

When you marry someone, you should become a student of "them" for the rest of your life. Every day you try to learn something new about them and honor them for it.

As you discover who they are, what they need, what pleases and comforts and encourages them... you DO that. You do that even if it's a foreign idea to you, because you do this FOR THEM because you love them.

You're it, man. You're her man. You're her pledged lifemate. Keep in mind this is supposed to be for real and forever. So, she has no other outlet for these things.

She needs you to say, "I love you" because women are emotionally motivated. But the words are just the beginning. There are many things you can do to say "I love you" in special, fun, playful, sexual and nonsexual ways. You need to experiment with them all.

Add this project to the top of your marital "to do" list. Every day, along with surprising her by telling her you love her in an unexpected moment, also find one way each day to demonstrate the same thing without your mouth. Use actions. Some clearly visible manifestation of this truth.

You do this because she is insecure for some reason, and since you do love her, you can do this for her out of love. The fact that you DO this work is proof you are demonstrating the "true love" she is desperately hoping you two really have.

Tell us how it goes.