Look I am going out with this guy and I really like him so I want to introduce him to my dad. Well that's probably going to be badd cuzz josh is the type of guy that will be racist and sit there in front of my dad and makeout with me. Well my dad is the opisite my dad doesn't know that I makeout with guys yett cuzz I try to keep it a secret from him. I am scared also to let them meet josh because well when parents meet him they usaully think he's a drug dealer or sex addicted freak.. also the other badd thing is he is 4 years older and we met at a party I went to with my older friends and thenn we started chillen then we started to make out thenn he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend so I said yeaa and now were going out and I don't know either tooo let him meet my dad or not! [What should i do?

I think I will answer you as teen because I'm 18 years old and I have seen a lot of this things before I will suggest to not let your dad meet josh it will be the bigest proplem in your life think about it if you set oppinment meeting with your friend josh to your dad the frist question he going to ask him it's how old are you ? And that is faver qustion for parents and guess what when your friend answers and say I'm older then her 4 years then BOOm the proplem will start you are dead meat because soon your friend leave the house your dad turn on you and scream at you because parentes they have heart that we don't have called you're my doughter and I don't want you to get hurt , so that how is going to be keep meeting with josh just be carfull don't do soemthing stupid with your boy friend such sex and these kind of stuff just live your life as normal

Well first any boy who would "make out" in front of your father, esp on the first visit is not the sort of boy you even need to be with to start with,

A mature action is to visit, talk with the parents and to act like proper people would in this situation.

Next if your boyfriend is very racist, I would have issues with being with him to start with

So you need to set back and think, if he is so bad that you can not take him home, most likely he is not the type of person you need to be with to start with.

All right in 15 so I can relate to this well... And id have to say if my boyfriend sat down with me and we madeout in front of my parents not only would I feel gross for letting my parents see that.. But its very disrespectful. My dad would KILL him. And age could be a problem. If you are under 16 with him being 4 years older. Its illegal to even be with him with out parental consent. And if he is only looking to make out and is into drugs then you'll have a problem bringing him home.. My family isn't religious at all.. But my mom always told me 3 things... 1) If we can't walk him into church without the whole town knowing all the bad stuff he has done then don't bring him home to us.
2) If we can look him up on the internet crime websites and find his name... Then don't bring him home to us.
3) If he is just going to come around to get sum then leave Don't bring him here...
Think about it.. You don't want to end up hurt...

To tell you the truth, he doesn't sound like a great guy to begin with. Why would people think he is a drug dealer sex addict? Do they have reason to believe this? And how did he earn this reputation? And why would he be racist and make out with you in front of your father? He doesn't really sounds like a great guy.

If you are going to stay with this guy (I recommend against it) then I would say yes, introduce him to your father. Your father should know who you are dating.

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Originally Posted by Chey1221

If you are under 16 with him being 4 years older. Its illegal to even be with him with out parental consent.

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Talking laws of Canada, and the U.S, it isn't illegal to date. Once the two engage in sex, legal problems can pop up, depending on age. However, these laws will differ across the world.

If he's 4 yrs older and you are a teen, it may be illegal for him to have sex with you. This creep sounds like a predator and you should be running away from him, not consdering having him meet the parents.