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  • Nov 8, 2008, 07:23 PM
    Kendy_15
    I'm so confused
    I'm 16 and a bisexual Female. My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot. We've broken up and gotten back together I don't know how many times. He transferred schools for me and we have even lived together. Well he knows I'm bisexual and there's this girl at my school I've been attracted to even before I met him. I've never talked to her, I don't know her name or even if she dates girls. Well he brings her up all the time cause we see her at school and I see her everywhere. He gets jealous and we fight. He keeps telling me to make friends with her cause I hardly have any friends and talk to her but I'm afraid if I do I'm going to fall for her or she might fall for me.

    I don't want my realationship to fall but at the same time I'm curious about this girl. :confused:
  • Nov 8, 2008, 07:47 PM
    starbuck8

    Kendy, (btw my sister is named Kendy, and you don't see the name often) are you 15? If so, do you really know at this age that you are bi-sexual, or are you maybe just bi-curious. I think you are too young to make this decision at this point. You say you don't have many friends. Is it because you are shy, or you don't know how to socialize and make friends?

    You need to make up your mind. Get some good info on bi-sexuality and think about your choices. I don't think your boyfriend will stick around for very long if you keep on putting him in the middle. He will eventually get fed up with it, and move on.

    You don't even know if this other girl is Bi. I think this is a fantasy of yours, and you really need to give it some serious thought, before you lose another friend.

    Good luck. :)
  • Nov 8, 2008, 08:11 PM
    Kendy_15

    Thank you so much that has helped me and has got me thinking... I'm 16 and I'm really shy... I have a few friends but not a whole lot.
    I don't want to lose my boyfriend over someone I don't know but I don't want to let her pass me by either and your right I should think about things and get more info
  • Nov 8, 2008, 08:20 PM
    starbuck8

    You are welcome. My sister Kendy's daughter went through some of the same things that you are. She was certain she was bi. At your exact age. She is now 19, has gotten a grip on her sexuality, and now knows she was only bi-curious. She went through heartbreak, and even an attempted suicide because of some of the things she was feeling. She lost a very good boyfriend, and other friends along the way. She now knows that she wants to be with her new boyfriend, and has made her decision to stay faithful to him. You just need to give it a lot of thought, to weigh your options, and decide what is more important in your life. :)
  • Nov 8, 2008, 08:30 PM
    Kendy_15

    Yeah that's always the hard part but no one said life was easy (at least not to me) :)

    I'll give it a lot of thought and I love my boyfriend and I know he feels the same way, he's stuck by me through everything we've been through... and it's hard to find people like that
  • Nov 8, 2008, 08:47 PM
    starbuck8

    Sure is! So careful how you treat him okay? ;)
  • Nov 9, 2008, 05:37 PM
    starbuck8

    I thought you might want to listen to this Kendy.

    YouTube - Michael Buble - Lost Music Video

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