Abusive Adult Daughter and Baby
I have a 22 year old daughter and 2 year old granddaughter who live with me. She has a very good job with a future so no issues there, BUT she was diagnosed with Bipolar in the past and shows sign of this all of the time. She is verbally abusive to me on a daily basis and shows signs of that potential with the baby. She cannot afford to live on her own. She does not help out around the house unless I make her. I only ask for $100 a month in rent which I have to make her pay. She has a real anger problem and always has. If I dare to ask her for rent for example, she gets mad tries to guilt me. I ask her to pick up, she gets mad. Everything is about responding through anger. Now she is starting to cuss in front of the baby and say things like "Gramma is a f!@##^% !" to the 2 year old. Her parenting skills with the baby are good sometimes, but other times she is harsh and impatient. I hear the baby cry a lot. She has had a drug problem is the past. On her weekends without the baby, she is gone to friends and partying. That is her choice, but lately, she is gone all weekend with the baby. I have no idea where she is with her.
My daughter has come to me a several occasions crying, saying she needs counseling. She can't be alone and thinks she has to be with a man. Unfortunately, she is picking the loosers that use and abuse. She will do anything for them and not take care of herself. Then she comes home and treats the baby and me terrilby! Sometimes she sees this and says she needs help to control her behavior with men and how she treats us. A week will go by and she has forgotten all about that conversation and it starts all over again. I am at my wits end. I would kick her out in a heartbeat if it was just her, but I am very concerned about the baby.