In about 3 weeks I will be seeing a former girlfriend that I dated in college about 30 years ago. We are supposed to get together for lunch.

We have not seen each other since college. Although we live 150 miles apart, I am not really going out of my way to see her. She lives close to where I grew up and so I get back to that area to see my mom and other family & friends fairly often.

About two weeks ago, we started emailing each other & that led to the lunch date. We were pretty close back in college as we dated off and on for two years. I am happily married and she seems to be as well. My question is this: When I see her, how should I greet her? A kiss on the cheek... on the lips... air kiss & a hug or just shake hands? Or, should I wuss out and just wait to see what she does?

Thanks for any advice you may have.

Don't kiss her on the lips man you are both married are you insane LoL

Just a kiss on the cheek and hey keep it friendly and simple

Just rap you arms around her and kiss her

cherry you did read they are both married.
so I think the kiss her part needs to be put under a better term.

as a friendly peck on the cheek.
and how does your wife feel about you visiting an X? Anyway

I would go with a hug, or if you are really REALLY brave, talk to your wife about it. Ask her advice.

If you are afraid to tell your wife about meeting this woman, then don't go.

I don't think a kiss of any kind is necessary. I would think a hug would be the limit in a case like that. Sure you two were together for 2 years and were close, but... you are both married now.

I'm curious too if your wife knows? If she doesn't, or like Fiona says if you are afraid to tell her, then don't go.

Is your wife going to be present at the meeting? If she is I would say a quick hug would be approiate. If your wife is not going to be there then I would base the action you take of how you would feel if it were your wife meeting an old boyfriend.

In my case it would be no more than a slight hug in either case.

I would say that just a hello and leave it at that, there is no romance, there is nothing but seeing a old friend, leave it at a friend.

That's a question only your wife can answer. Let us know what she says.

Thanks all for the timely response and advice. I really never felt that a kiss on the lips was appropriate. However, a hug and a quick peck on the cheek was something I was considering.

My wife will not be there. I would tell my wife that she is an old friend from college. I don't think I need to say she's an ex-girlfriend. That could cause her to get stressful and perhaps get upset for no reason. Because I certainly don't intend to re-kindle any romance & I would be shocked if the ex wanted to re-kindle it. I really foresee this meeting will be nothing other than catching up on old times and exchanging pictures of our families.

One arm hug, I always call that the "friend hug"

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Originally Posted by cubfan2200

Thanks all for the timely response and advice. I really never felt that a kiss on the lips was appropriate. However, a hug and a quick peck on the cheek was something I was considering.

My wife will not be there. I would tell my wife that she is an old friend from college. I don't think I need to say she's an ex-girlfriend. That could cause her to get stressful and perhaps get upset for no reason. Because I certainly don't intend to re-kindle any romance & I would be shocked if the ex wanted to re-kindle it. I really foresee this meeting will be nothing other than catching up on old times and exchanging pictures of our families.

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I would still your tell your wife that she's your ex girlfriend. What if she found out anyway? Then she would think you're hiding something. And if you think she wouldn't be comfortable with the meeting if you did tell her that, don't go.