Hello, I was looking for some advice. I am 26 years old, recently divorced my high school sweet heart. We dated for 8 years were married for less then a year. (my fault for the divorce) well I started dating another man shortly after, he is 49. He promised me the world, security happines family and a happy home and so on. He told he was going through a divorce as well. We moved in together and have been living together for a year. Things were great we both did things and expericanced new things. Well just last night we had a talk about the future, He has not started his divorce, he is seprated so I asked him when he was going to start the divorce and he told me that he can't until his WIFE gets a job (she never work a day in her life while they were married) and gets situated, he does not want to divorce her because she will not health insurance, she needs knee surgury. Then I said that one day not anytime soon I want to be married again and have children have a FAMILY... I have never had children. He has two boys well they are 22 and 21. He told me that he is getting older so he does not think he would be able to have kids... so I Don't KNOW> should I stay with him never getting married never having children or should I cut my ties with him and move on... I want to be happy... I love him but I love myself more... please someone help

Hope you enjoyed playing house, as in reality is you jumped into this on an impulse, and waited much to late to ask the important questions.

You have no stakes where you are, and no commitments, and if its not what you want... leave.

Given your decisions about whom your with, stay single and find yourself, so your questions about the long term, come before following some hasty feelings.

If I were in your situation (this is my opinion) I would leave him and move on. Are you willing to sacrifice not having kids and a family one day? You can find someone better who is not married and has the same future family goals as you. You are young and will be able to find someone else. You have to make this decision though. Think about what you want for your future and if he can't give it to you then you need to make that decision, but like I said, if it were me, I would leave. Good luck with everything.