Hi everyone. Its been about 7 months after my breakup with my ex, we are both now 17 years old, and been with each other for over a year. He was my overall best boyfriend I ever had. When he broke up with me, I was really shock, couldn't handle it and over reacted. I cried so much, never thought I could cried that much in my life, but I knew it was bad and I did may stupid things. Well lets just say people call me a crazy ex girlfriend? Well more like his friends. Because I called him all the time and wouldn't leave him alone. But please tell me, after a break up? We tend to think of things hoping they won't leave us, and in my head risk was all I was thinking. I was always on his myspace until he delete me wondering if he was taken, but then I still got on it, he blocked me from aim, but I know he wanted to help me, it took me 3 months later until I finally stopped. I remember that day, the day he said "leave me the F alone" it was my first time every hearing my because at me like that and so I stop, stop calling and bothering him. It hurted me so badly. He liked my close firend which now ruin the friendship and now he back to the girl he first liked before he liked me. Or so I think, there is a rumor they are talking.

Well after the break up, I had 3 months without seeing his face. Well I took 2 months bothering him so it was more like one month, now that school started like for 2 months and I feel broken again. I have to see him everyday, I lost all my friends, I can't go back to where I use to be because of the break up, now I'm stuck making new friends, which is really a had thing to do. I got my class change on the second week and I happen to be in his class. The next week I found out he tried to transfer out of my class because of me. Why is that so? I left him alone. But now, its getting harder, seeing his face, trying not to look or care about him in class, him with someone else? I wonder why icant get over him. Why is it so that he can get over me so fast. And how he seems so normal. I wonder if he still cares or ever wants to ever be friend or try talking again. What are guys really thinking? When all I did was love him. Can you please help me.

Are there such thing as coincidences? I don't know why but I see him a lot. Even walking home since she lives near me. And I have to pass his house. I bet he thinks I'm a stalker. :confused:

Everything your saying is normal pretty much every girl goes through so major heart wrenching brake up that makes you feel like you'll never be the same again. You will be fine trust me, make so new friends get involved into some new activities so you can be busy, in no time at all you'll be yourself again. Break ups are so hard and they hurt right down to our soul but you will make it and be a better person because of it...

You haven't given yourself enough time. It will be awhile, but you really need to get busy doing other things.

Another thing, the more you think about why you can't get over your ex, the longer it will take. Just don't worry about the time factor, it is different for everyone. Focus on you and let the other things take care of themselves.

Look you will have bigger and better come along, so chill out. Your still younge and have plenty of time to find love. Don't rush to find love.

Thankx. I know that I will one day get over him and its just a matter of time. What I don't understand is how can I stop caring? Recently there was a banquet. He and that girl I heard talking was there. I tried to fake a smile like I always do but it seems so hard to put on now. The moments that I don't want to see him, I see him. Like walking home or taking my SAT while seeing him during bathroom breaks. We are in two different room, two different test, two different breaks, but it happens to be me and him outside in the hallway at the same time. It just bothers me that why do we have so many coincidence. Or should they be consider as a coincidence or sometime other?

I've been going through a lot this weekend, and the only person I can think of running to is him, but I can't even go to him. Why does it have to be this way? And this painful.

You need to find YOUR friends and YOUR family and talk to them. Don't talk to this guy and his friends. Most of your pain is caused by contacting him and his friends. You need to get busy with things that YOU want to do with YOUR friends. Screw what his friends say and what they think... they don't know the real you. You know that!

You can't sit around alone... this gives you time to think about him. Keep yourself busy with something.

Your too young to be hung up on one guy. There are plenty of others that are better for you. He will come along before you know it. When he does, you won't even think about this other guy.

Don't call him. Don't call his friends. Smile and wave when you see him and KEEP WALKING. Keep your head up and KNOW their is a better guy out there for you.

You DO NOT need him and you have to remember that. You are good enough by yourself and don't need him to validate anything about you. Learn to love yourself and let life take care of the rest.

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why does it have to be this way? And this painful.

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We all know what your going through, unfortunately, that's how we all learn to cope with our feelings. Yes, it hurts, but we learn through that pain, that over time, it gets better. You will learn also.

Waiting for that time to come is really long. When I was with him. There was never any coincidence in seeing him while I was walking now. I see him everywhere. It seems like I'm getting played. I miss him a lot. But then I can only tell myself that.

Yes, it will take a long time, no doubt about it. By going through this, you will become much stronger and much more prepared for whatever life throws at you. It is the rough times in life and how we come out of them that defines us. I understand your feelings and am in the same boat, but I refuse to let this beat me... don't let it beat you.

Its been 9 months now? Trying to start fresh but still the past is haunting me. Why is that so? I try to avoid looking at his face when I see him. Today was weird, I was at the movie and the ads for the new movies are out, I wanted to watch this movie and suddently the movie was called. All about steve. I was SHOCK! My friends looked at me.. 5 min later, I saw the girl he liked walking in. what more can happen, I couldn't breath. Why? Should I be over him. For all I know I want him to die ( I'm just I just don't want to see him) but why won't this feeling go away.

Time, time, and more time. It's a process that has to run its course. Hang in there.

Time is everything. I know it sounds cliché now. But, in the end, time is everything. Trust me.. don't try to rush the healing process. By doing so.. you'll only prolong it. Take it day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute if you have to. You'll be stronger by the time this is all said and done. Keep your head up.