Getting Bio-Dad to give up Rights
ABout 2 months ago I split up with the father of my 17 month old and my growing 7 months old in the womb. He has never really shown any responsibility to my daughter or myself so eventually I became fed up. At first I wanted him involved in their lives, I wanted my girls to at least grow up knowing there father. But, this past weekend he was supposed to take his daughter from sat morning to mon after noon. When I went to go drop her off with him he was no where to be found. I knew he had been partying at his brother's house the night before so I went to see if maybe he hadn't left. His brother told me that he was most likely still out partying with girls he had met and offered to take her until he talked to their father since I was already 30 minutes late to work. By the time I got to work I ended up not having to work, they had found a replacement for me for that day. SO I waited about 3 hours then around noon I called to see if her father had shown up or if they had heard from him. They hadn't. SO I told them to get her ready and I would be there to pick her up. As I arrive and am walking through the door I see her father's older brother putting his containr of marijuana away. THey were smoking it while my 17 months old daughter was in the house! I know I cannot blame her father for his brother's actions but I do blame her father for not being there to take on the responsibility of a father. So I guess my whole point is, knowing her father the way I do, I know that as soon as child support kicks in he will be complaining about having to pay it. Especially since they are now already garnishing his checks for unpaid tickets. When that time comes I want to be able to say to him, "then sign over your rights and you won't have to worry about it" but I am absolutely no idea on how to get the papers for this. I want to have them ready for him to sign. I do not feel that he will set a good example for my girls. His response to her seeing him smoke marijuana and hearing him curse, "she'll learn it anyways, whats it matter?" I feel that she does not need to learn about it from her family. SO what do I do?