I know I'm new to the site but I definitely would appreciate any insight on my relationship. So me and my ex were together ten months and during the six months we were really happy together then she got accepted into a college that was 4 hours away during the end of the six month. Things were hard at first because of the distance but she said she wanted to continue the relationship so I thought everything was fine then she said she wanted to join a sorority so I said OK I did get jealous but I didn't let it show. Seems like that should have been a redlight in my face but I trusted her so a month later we had plans for me to come down there and see her well she broke up with me when I was on my way done there saying she couldn't take the distance anymore and that she did not like me as much as she thought so I was very angry with her and said some hurtful things but then we ended up closing terms okay so I thought. So not even two days go by and she contacts me saying she wants to be just friends but then further on in the text she starts talking about sexual stuff we had done and how she wanted me to do it again to her. I told her I couldn't be friends with her cause it was to hard she said she understood then stopped talking to me. Then I contacted her cause I thought I was over it 3 days later but the truth was that it was still to hard so I ended up telling her yet again we couldn't be friends and I meant it this time. I change my number block her from myspace Facebook etc. Then she contacts me on aim and she has my new number cause one of my friends gave it to her. So she contacts me later and starts a random conversation all about her of course and how all these creepy guys are commenting on her butt and on her body. Then she got mad when I said I didn't care and I'm like what is going on with this I told you I didn't want to talk but I have to admit during the conversation I showed my vunerability because I asked why couldn't we work this out and how much I missed her I made pretty much every wrong thing because I wanted her back. But I don't keep up with her life but she constantly knows what's going on in mine and I'm thinking to myself why is she doing this shouldn't she be out enjoying her new life without me. Im just so confused she is the type of girl that keeps all her emotions inside and will never admitt if she likes me still or not. But something tells me that she isn't over me. Im just confused about the whole mess I know I should my weak side but I'm a generally nice person which seems to be another disadvantage I told her we could maybe be friends one day but not anytime soon and she said she would wait but honestly if she keeps contacting me where is this going and why does it continue.

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I need you to be strong, do you. Live your life,don't let her play games with you. She is the one who don't know what she wants,not you.If she really care about you, she be back.
Just fall back!!

You say she will never admit she likes you? I doubt that.

I think you madethe right move in cutting off contact with her. You did show that you have a long way to go when she did contact you.

When an ex contacts you it is easy to jump to conclusions as to why she/he is doing it. Remember that they were the ones who ended it, they can cope with it better because they made the decision. I'mnot saying she could care less but your feeling towards her seem much stronger, your looking for signs from her that indicate she misses you so much.

You need to deal with this and forget the notion of her returning. Also, if she has a direct line to you than you need to either cut that off or deal with it. I do not think yelling at her for contacting you is the right move, it just shows how much it bothers you. You may even tell her your not ready to be friends.

You must cut her access to you by either screening your calls better, or changing your number... again.

Either way, be polite but busy, and never have time to let her talk, as you are on your way out, or some other reason. After a while she will leave you alone.

She thinks by keeping you close, you won't forget her, and it leaves the door open for a better time. Selfish, but maybe flattering, but not in your best interest right now.

Don't put your life on hold, heal and move on!

You have every right to tell her to leave you alone, if it comes down to that.

Well I'm with my guy for like 2 years and I find him cheating on me, so be strong. Someone new will come along, and you will be as happy as you were or more happier because it will be new and exciting.

Hello Everyone,

I want to thank all of you for posting every comment helped out greatly. Right now I called it quits with her I can't take this friends right now and I explained it to her. She was even more confusing than ever this time with I really still like you a lot then 5 seconds later to I don't like you like you like me and I just told her that I couldn't do this back and forth thing any longer and wished her the best of luck and moved on. Now I'm trying to move on and this new movie that came out Forgetting Sarah Marshall helped out a ton. I know its going to be hard but I'll be strong for you it wasn't just her that was bothering me. I lost a lot of stuff important to me these last two weeks ill share it just for the heck of it. I lost my job the next day then I got threatening phone calls I don't know by who but changed number again got in credit problems flunked school got kicked out of house car broke down had to bury my fav pet that my mom killed by accident in the dryer then threw my dead pet on top of me waking me up screaming and my father disowning me. So after all this crap Im still positive though I just laughed after a while cause I didn't care oh yea and the only thing that kept me sane was skateboarding and yea my skateboard broke two days into this mess so the only thing I've been doing is running at least I'm getting exercise but thanks again to everyone I really appreicate all the comments!