It has been 5 months since my ex broke up with me and I have been in NC since then except for 2 days. I go to parties, hang out with friends and joined a gym but I still feel as miserable as the day she dumped me.She seemed to have moved on but why can't I ?

Just keep doing what your doing. I bet those contacts were recent, weren't they?

Yeah, you GOT dumped. She moved on fast because she had already started to move on before she even broke up with you. She is weeks (if not months) ahead of you on the "moving on" curve.

It will take as long as it takes. Stop looking at the calendar.

It wasn't recent... it was about a month after the breakup

Before anyone ever wanted to break up with the other one, they have already thought about it many times.

Off topic but I really really wish! That the other partner would

Say

Hey.. put down that chicken.. look I'm having doubts this is what I'm thinking..

And then! You can get ready
But not.

Oh I want to marrie you.. then the next day
Yeahh no. your not right for me

Bah!

:)

Each person has different coping mechanism. Be it person is the dumper, dumpee, not that attached, got enough or lost that loving feelin...You take your time, don't compare, don't ask why...IT'S OVER. That's the point. You are left with options to MOVE ON or be miserable. If you choose moving on (fast like her) just stick to NC. Talking to her as a friendly gesture is not only plastic but will only delay your healing.

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You are left with options to MOVE ON or be miserable.

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Nice to have choices.