My boyfriend no longer interested in sex
My boyfriend is 30, and I'm 21. We've been dating for 2 and 1/2 years now. When we first started dating, I told him I wanted to wait a month before we actually had sex. We messed around a lot during this time and it was amazing. We barely slept.
Then we had sex and it wasn't that great. I assumed it would get better. However, it rarely happened! I found out he had barely had sex in past relationships either and that according to him we had sex a lot. At best, we will have sex 4 times a month. Average however is once a month maybe.
We live together and we're constantly together-- I'd be impressed if he found a way to cheat on me, I don't think he could possibly find the time. I've asked him if he's gay, he says he's not. Every time I ask him why we don't have sex he gets very upset with me.
I know I'm physically attractive-- I get approached constantly. Yet he seems unattracted to me. In fact, the sexier I dress and more seductive I am, the more he freaks out. He says he's "intimidated by me."
This is making me incredibly depressed. He seems repelled by me. I can't stand the constant rejection.
However, I love him very very much. He says he loves me. He says he thinks I'm beautiful and that he wants to marry me. So what is going on?? He does seem depressed, but I get the sense that he's always had a low sex drive. He said in his last two year relationship he had sex only 3 times.
What do I do? Is it "usual" for some men just to have low sex drives? Or be so insecure that he doesn't want sex? I've tried talking, but he just gets mad... :(