Hello I have been with my man for 2 and a half years we have had sex, its just I am getting married in a week and when we have sex its not steamy like it was when we first met I would just like some ideas of things I could do or moves I could do on my wedding night to make it so he will never forget it please help me

I would go with doing it basically on and up against anything you can stick your body to. Maybe start with oral for you both and do things you haven't tried in a while or never before.

Hello:

I think E's got something. Get some velcro and stick it to his back and the wall. Then plaster him up there and have your way with him.

excon

Start by getting some wedding night negligée.

It always helps to build up suspense, so maybe try dancing or teasing him in any way you can while avoiding physical contact. Do this until you're both completely unable to take your hands off each other.
When this happens, draw things out some more by takng your time on the foreplay. Take as long as you can exploring each others' bodies while avoiding the main androgynous zones. The longer the tension builds, the less he'll be able to think about anything else.
Congratulations on your up-and-coming wedding!

Kal

I wouldn't worry about any new "tricks"... though ill mention a few.

sex is usually best when one takes time to build sexual tension with sensual touch. Your most important sexual organ is your mind... the more you can get into your partners head before you get into his pants, the better he will suspend reality, get lost in the moment.

there's no perfect recipe since each person is different in likes and needs. If a gun were to my head and I was told to give my partner a mind blowing orgasm or else, here's what id do.

the bedroom would be clean, tidy, warm enough to be naked, inviting. A couple of bottle of korbel brut chilled bedside. A warm bath drawn. Join her in the bath, but no sex there. Just skin on skin, time together, perhaps some kissing, some playful petting, but just enough to start tension building. A glass or two of brut while in the hot water.

after the bath wed separate briefly, dry off, etc.. And meet again in bed. Next, id sensitize her skin with slow massage, head to toe. For my partner, this step is absolutely important. If I take 20-30 minutes to sensitize her body, she is much more primed, much more responsive, and quicker to reach orgasm.

foreplay, to me, is often overdone... for ex, I love my neck and ears kissed, love deep kisses... but I prefer these things be held back... use them later in sex to push it up a level or over the top.

so how does this apply to you at all? Well... I'm guessing you want a great experience too, not just wanting to make his experience good. Think about what primes you best also.

a naked woman straddling me while I'm face down in bed, running her hands over my bare back, dragging her chest over my skin as she works lower... its heaven. Running down his body with teasing kisses is awesome, but using your chest to stim him while you are doing so is an added kick.

one "trick" that's often overlooked is the sensitivity of the mans "guys" during sex. Sure, when a guy gets racked on the corner of a desk it hurts like hell... but during sex, stim at the testes can absolutely kick it up. If he is on top, you can reach around with one hand, under and around, and simply use your fingers to gently scratch or tug at his "guys"... also the perimium, between the scrotum and the anus, can be sensitive for a man, though some dislike direct anal contact.

taking his finger in your mouth and wrapping your tongue around it is like a peripheral blowjob.

many people have some light bondage fetishes, such as blindfolding or lightly tied, even if you are simply wrapping your own wrists up with a scarf around the bedpost.

etc... I really can't tell you what will work best on him. And I certainly can't tell him how to make it great for you... again, that often means you getting lost in the moment, and of you are thinking too much about him, you might be distracted.

is he open to oral on you to orgasm? If so, one of the best things you can do is prime yourself first, get him to get you off, then focus completely on him. Having given you an orgasm, there's less pressure on him... he can focus on himself, and if you are lucky, you might get multiples.

speaking of which... if you don't self stimulate during sex, consider it. Some of the best sex I've had was with women who wouldn't have reached orgasm without self stim of the cl!toris... and if you have one hand on yourself, and one hand on him, this can also add a level of arousal that pushes you both over the top.

in the end... just enjoy it. Too much stress and anxiety can make either partner perform worse than they normally would.

and don't get sunburned.

meaning on my honeymoon we spent just 45 minutes in the hot southern sun and then spent the next three nights on the patio hoping there was a cool breeze, praying for nothing to touch our burned bodies. Even the air was too scratchy. =) luckily we eventually could touch, and the top floor balcony sex with the night wind coming in off the ocean was awesome.

if you have any questions, please ask. I ramble.

If you are planning on a big wedding "night", I really hope that your wedding is simple and that your reception is nothing more than dinner.

On my wedding day, I was up at 6 AM for hair appointments, a manicure, etc. Then brunch with my bridesmaids. Then church to finish getting dressed and ready. Ceremony, pictures, more pictures. Dinner, speeches, dancing---we didn't have everything done until after midnight.

We had sex---but it was by NO means the best sex we ever had. We were both too tired for GREAT sex.

My advice is to enjoy the hot tub in the honeymoon suite with each other, get a good night's sleep, and start the great sex stuff on the first night of your honeymoon, and forget about trying to have enough energy on your wedding night.

Traditionally, it is the MAN who is to make a wedding night special for his new wife, his love.

My husband arranged a night at a large really neat hotel near the airport, a place with an indoor/outdoor pool. Wow, was it terrific to swim around at 10 degrees(Chicago in January)with small snowflakes falling and steam rising from the outdoor part of the pool all with 80 degree pool water keeping us warm!!

He gave me a couple of presents, flowers and a lovely negligée, and we crashed on the giant size hotel bed. Of course,I wasn't a virgin and we had sex before, but we consummated the marriage in the usual manner though tired.

Off we went in a jet the next day for the honeymoon in an island off Honduras. Wow, what an adventure.

Anyway, thanks for bearing with me while I remember!

Thank you very much ramble you helped me get a few more ideas I ust wish to blow him away you no do u have any tips for an amazin blowjob

PLEASE do not use chat speak.

Every time you do, I think you're 13.

This is an adult board. Type like an adult

For those offended by graffic sexual content, this is an adult sex board. The OP'er has asked specifically about oral sex. If you don't want to read about this please leave now.

Well, even though sexual stim on a man to orgasm usually involves some version of "push, pull, repeat" there are certainly different things that can amp it up... but, just as with intercourse, it can completely depend on his specific likes.

Starting with his mind... oral (or any sex) at an unexpected time or place catches him off guard and can charge the moment. For ex, if I'm in the bathroom, leaving the shower, reaching for a towel to dry off and my love in waiting there, sitting in the bathroom, and gives a "come here now" gesture, its unexpected and awesome. Oral with you sitting and him standing is a different angle than laying in bed. Have him come over to you, begin by pressing your forehead against his stomach, kissing lightly. I'm a fan of slow, deliberate oral. You can use your hand or not. Using your hand can keep you from going too deep if that's an issue. Some focus too much on the thrusting motion (pushing toward his body)... don't forget that pulling away with your hand strongly slides the foreskin up and moves the testes, which feels great. One of the reasons many men like approaching a woman from behind is the slapping action he gets when the guys hit a woman. Yes... it's a silly, silly thing to visualize.. but the intense innervation is undeniable.

You might want to wait until you take him in for a bit, but then use your hands to guide his. Guide one hand of his to your chest... you don't have to be topless, but access to your chest is good. Guide his other hand to the side of your face, right near your mouth... hell be able to feel your movement and his movement from another dimension. And again, using a free hand to tug, cradle, and move his "guys" will again introduce another sensation that can push him over the top.

So the element of surprise is good to use. Stop him in the hallway, push him against the wall, take down his pants and go at it. Wake him up in the middle of the night with your mouth. etc...

For all my suggestions, understand I'm never telling you what to do. You need to be comfortable with what you are doing. I've done things for lovers that I might have been less interested in, but willing to do of my own free will.

That's my preface for discussing his finishing at your mouth or in hand. We've had discussions here on the boards about this and the numbers probably around 50:50, if not 60:40... those who don't really like performing oral on atheir guy and/or finishing at the mouth versus those who do like it and finish there.

Personally, a mediocre bj that finishes at the mouth is probably better than a very good bj finished in hand... just as hitting orgasm after withdrawl during intercourse just isn't the same as being inside a woman. There's a lush, warm element to the finish at mouth. In the end, a bj to orgasm is a lovely thing, no matter what you are most comfortable with.

Also, a "side 69 position" where you are turned like its 69, but you aren't straddling his head... your body is alongside his, allows him to have access to your back, arse, chest, etc in a different angle, and personally, I think the approach feels different, with the woman's tongue on the top side. Don't forget to use your fingers at his guys or to pull up with a firm grip, still slowly and deliberately.

He might have completely different likes. Diff strokes, diff folks.

You may surprise yourself by your feelings on your wedding night.
It will be an emotional day and hopefully those emotions will carry over to the wedding night. I think you are worried about nothing.