I have been married for a little over 5 years. 2 kids (young kids). My husband always tell me that if I have something to say then to say it with out beating around the bush... so I do. But its like my concerns complaints go unheard... even when I complain about the complaints they are unheard also. He don't treat me the way he used to. And no sex in the amount that we used to. We don't talk or play like we used to. And I feel lonely all the time, confused, and depressed. We are deeply rooted in church and we both don't believe in divorce. I NEED HELP! What do I do?

See that's the thing, we have done counselimg by our pastor and first lady. We have the counseling get everything out, things are fine for a while but then things change. But its not like we have a BAD relationship its just his consistency sucks! I have told him that also.

Marriage counseling, it will help each of you understand the other better.

Please do not ask a new question for follow up answers or more information, these do not work like blogs, most people would have no way to match your first and second post.

You "answer" your original question to add more info.

Counseling can be on going things, sessions every few months for a month or two, relationships take a lot of work at times.

Also sometimes someone not close to you, like a pastor yours can recommend since then your own pastor does not have to know all the details can help if that is an issue.
*** also he may be but many pastors are not qualified counselors if they have not been to school and taken specific classes in it.
I know as a pastor of 30 years I seldom counsel since I am not trained in it, I do pre marriage but that is only because it is a state requirement in some places to get a marriage license or at least one at a lower price.

Okay thanks.
I do understand what you mean about the counseling. We have a couples ministry at our church that we are members of and are active... I guess the information I really want to know is how can I keep him from getting bored (if that's the case). How do you tell if he is losing love for you?

Go check out that movie FIREPROOF in the theaters now. If it involves babysitters and driving a long way to see it, do it.

Now that you two are married, all the normal day-to-day humdrum routine stuff will kill you if you don't keep "dating" each other. It's important. The things you did and the ways you acted when you were "putting on airs" and courting for the first time... that stuff needs to be kept around in some form or another.

It's not enough to just be committed to one another. You also need to be #1 fans of each other, too. We all need a cheerleader in our lives, and this is the component that is most often missing.

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Originally Posted by Breya82

okay thanks.
i do understand what you mean about the counseling. we have a couples ministry at our church that we are members of and are active...i guess the information i really want to know is how can i keep him from getting bored (if thats the case). how do you tell if he is losing love for you?

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Do you have a couples only small group that you can join? Since you are both Christians, (don't ask what flavor, Don't tell) Get involved in your church. Join small groups, join family counselling groups, join addiction groups if that is/was ever a problem. If you ever have the opportunity go see Mark Gunger. He presents life and marriage in a funny and biblical manner that will leave you with a refreshed sense of understanding the differences between men and women. You can also do a YouTube search for him. There are several clips of his workshops posted there.