:confused: [F]OK I am 17 I have my GED and I think I am pregnant I have taken two pregnancy tests a week apart and they both said positive I show a lot of signs do you all think I am I want the baby but the guy said he does not want kids we are no longer together and I don't want to tell him do I need to tell him he told he would not let me have a baby and he would do what ever it took to stop it being born if I got pregnant so some one help me please help me

First of all how is he going to stop you from having a baby and secondly yes you should tell him. I however would not put his name on the birth certificate but that's just a personal thing. I doubt he can stop you from having a child since a paternity test is typically done after the birth of the baby. I would start taking prenatal vitamens asap. Make a dr appointment so that you get the best care possible for that little one. Home preggy test rarely display a false positive though they are known to show false negative usually because there taken too soon. Go see a dr asap.

But I don't want to tell my mom I am scared and I am scares of what he will do to me

First of all you need to tell your mom.
Secondly You don't need to tell him. He only needs to find out when he is served with the child support papers.
With those you can have a restraining order delivered to him.
That will protect you and the baby from him.
Your mom will probably be happier then a duck to have a grandbaby.

First off, please tell your mom. She will be there to support you and help you through this since he will not be.

Secondly, it sounds as though this man in controlling and dangerous. If that is the case I would not tell him. As Myth stated above, it is not necessary to put his name on the birth certificate, but I would sue him for child support.

Are you ready to have a baby? Are you truly aware of all the hard work raising a child takes? I understand that you have your GED, but I am not sure why this matters. No one needs a diploma or GED to become pregnant or to be a mother. You have to have INSIDE you what it takes to be a GOOD mother to this child.

Please do not take this on lightly. I am a mother of 4 children, my first was born when I was 22 and the last was born when I was 38. Looking back I really was not ready to have my first or second child. My third was born when I was 29 and it was only then that I realized that I just MIGHT be mature enough to be a mother. Now I am almost 42 and know for sure that I can be a good mother.

Please think this through carefully.

Yes I had a kid for first 5 mounts of his life my mom is going to help me I told her today she took me to the health department and I am so its OK I'm scared as hell but I am not telling the dad yet I have another doctor health on Monday so wish me luck please thank every one who has helped me

From the sounds of it, I wouldn't tell the dad that you are pregnant.

I wouldn't put his name on the birth certificate.

And I wouldn't file for child support…it probably wouldn't be that much either.

If you file for child support, he might try to get some type of custody or visitation, do you want really want that?

GREAT Kitten, you took the first step. Wasn't so bad was it?

Congratulations. Us Mom's are really wonderful creatures once you trust us.

And I would probably hold off on telling the "sperm donor" you just don't know how he will react.

OK my mom was a little mad at first then was happy about it she said she already knew just wanted me to come to her. The "sperm donor" has maid one girl lose her baby by hitting her then pushed her down some stared so I am not telling him till after the babes born

If he has done that, honey, then I would not let him know you are pregnant. I would go so far as to advise you not to tell him at all. Do not list him on the birth certificate.

In this way, once you meet a wonderful caring man who wants to be a father to this child he cannot stand in the way.

I agree with J 9.

If he is that violent, don't ever tell him he's the father.

Don't put your baby in harms way.

Thank you all I am not going to tell him that I am I know that I am not going to put him on the bith certicet because then he can get rights to it and I think he would hurt the baby so you

I believe Captain Forest suggested before not to go for child support. I only disagree because children are expensive. But in this case he is 100% correct. If your Mom will help you are doing the right thing. And, you have found out now that we will all be here for all the bumps in the road you may come across.

First of all it is not up to this guy. It is up to you whether you want to keep the baby or not. You have a strong desire to keep the baby, so that is what I would advise you to do. I am so glad that you told your mom and that your mom is supportive in this. I would NEVER tell the guy. He is a very violent, hateful person and I would Never let him know. It is safer for you and the baby to stay away from him.

Joe

The Way My Mom Looks At It Is That I Have Been Active For 4 Years And She Knew That It Would Happen One Day Or Another She Is A Little Up Set About It But Is Dealing With It Well She Told Me That If I Told The Father Of It She Would Not Help Me She Is Going To Keep The Baby Through The Day When I Start Beauty School So That I Can Still Do What I Want To Do With My Life

I'm glad you told your mom it will make things a lot easier in the long run. If I had known that the "sperm donor" was such a violent person I would not have advised you to tell him at all!! I wouldn't put him on the birth cert, or even tell him about it, nor would I file for support from him. I would get a restraining order asap just in case he finds out some other way. If you file for child support you will have to have him on the birth cert, and a paternity test will be done. I would advise against all that due to the nature of the individual. Again get a restraining order against him so that your protected though the eyes of the law that way if anything happens and he violates that order you and your child will have some protection. Sorry about the bad advise on my first post hun. I honestly made a mistake and I apologize.

That's Fine You Did Not Know All The Story I Should Have Put All That In The First Post Thank You For Your Help

Not a problem... I do hope that you stick around this site to help other people in your situation. Especially when it comes to the telling of the parents. We are all here to help let us know if you need anything.

Myth I Will Im Just Scared Oh Is Any One From Aol

I have AOL. Amybugaboobabe is my sn. I hope all goes well. I am glad that you told your mom, and that she is being supportive. Entering parenthood can be scary, but this little angel will bring so much happiness into your life. It is also wonderful that your mom will be helping you take care of baby while you are furthering your education. Very important. I also went to beauty school. Its fun! And makes REALLY good money upon completion.Some colleges even allow you to make money while you are learning.Best of luck! Keep in touch. And feel free to I'm me any time.