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  • Oct 28, 2008, 09:39 AM
    confusedme
    Sexual feelings
    How can a man masturbate but not have any sexual feelings towards any woman, even being a teenager having no hormonal sexual feelings towards anyone but still being able to masturbate, and only start having wet dreams and having sexual feelings later with someone that they have fallen in love with for the first time. Can this happen, is there any men out there that this has happened to?
  • Oct 28, 2008, 09:48 AM
    trishgg57

    I'm not a man, but I have an answer for you. Masturbation has one purpose, and that is sexual satisfaction. It's about what gets him hot. What's love got to do with it?
  • Oct 28, 2008, 09:52 AM
    confusedme
    Nothing that was separate, just can't see how a man can not have any sexual attraction to anyone or feel turned on by anyone, but can still feel like masturbating, the love thing was, he fell in love and that was the first time he felt sexually attracted to anyone,
  • Oct 28, 2008, 01:41 PM
    Choux

    Masturbation is having sex or making love to yourself... there is an object of desire.

    My observation in life is that a man's first love is his penis, then outwardly directed feelings toward others. That is probably the case with you but you haven't brought that thought to consciousness.

    IN addition, enjoying sex doesn't necessarily have anything to do with "falling in love"... "falling in love" "being in love" is a transitory emotional state that usually ends in a year or so.

    Don't get all cerebral about what you don't really have any experience with... we all go through stages in adult sexuality beginning in our teens... starting with ignorance and then with every experience we learn more and more(hopefully!), adding to our knowledge and feelings of passion.

    Watch that you don't get "stuck" in masturbation, be sure an have a lot of relationships with women so you know what kind of women you prefer for intimacy. :)
  • Oct 28, 2008, 01:50 PM
    homebirthmom

    Just because there's been no sexual attraction in the past, means nothing for the future. Maturity is something gained over time, and everyone is on a different timeline so to speak.
    Safe sexual exploration is a good way to find out what turns you on. If masturbation is the key, then do it... just don't let it take over your life. :)
  • Oct 29, 2008, 01:27 AM
    confusedme

    OK, should have been clear, I am a woman and I am talking about my husband, but that makes a lot of sense, as I always thought it was not possible, and people keep telling me men are not like that, but my husband insist that is how he felt till he met me.
  • Oct 29, 2008, 06:41 AM
    rocky63

    What! Your in love with rosie and her 5 sisters(hand)

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