This is my story..

I had this friend (my best friend) for 16 years now she is pretty blond with awesome personality we wernt as close in High school as we went to deffrent schools but after school we did everything together the only problem was she is a student and I am working so for some reason I was more mature an I saw life different than she did.

I was always there for her when she need me like good friends do,she and her boyfriend broke up and that hit her hard she went through a very bad time I was there all the way putting my life and what I want on hold so after a year she got her boyfriend back its not that tippical story that I was not good enough anymore she still phoned me to do stuff but this time I was the 3rd wheel she never wanted to do things without I boyfriend I didn't always want to tag along and at this time I met her brothers best friend wich stayed in cpt so I was very emotional as I never saw him...

We are not talking at the moment just because she and her boyfriend broke up again and my boyfriend move to jhb to be with me and she was upset not happy for me like I wanted her too I think that pushed me away and when I need to save my money she doesn't support me just thinks I am thinking of excuses not to go out,cause she study's pshycology she makes assumptions of why I am unhappy but never once when we talk as me what is wrong how do I feel..

All I want is for some one to tell me am I wrong for ignoring her now as she is ignoring me and I didn't do anything wrong she said she can't be happy for me and my boyfriend (wich is her friend too) cause she is heart broken after her boyfriend left her again,I did anything for her :confused:

I don't think your wrong. It oblivious that she feels jealous because of her break-up. Sometimes misery loves company. When she needed you the most you was there for her and you was happy for her when she was happy, it's sad that she can't do the same.

Sometimes we have to ignore people and sometimes the people we have to ignore is our friends. Even though you going feel hurt but you have a life too and deserve to be happy. Maybe once she find someone she will be able to take the focus off you.

You can let her know how you feel but don't expect her to except it or listen. Live your life because you only have one life to live. She always told you can't be happy for you because she is heartbroken which I find silly. I been in her shoes and at the time my friend got married and I still was happy for her. She is very selfish but at least she was honest about her feelings to you.

The simple truth is that friends grow apart, and do their own thing. The trick is that you have to let them do that thing, and you do yours, but sad as it is that's the best way to go. I think we all have to realize that. People change.

The sad part is most of my friends are her friends too I moved on as I feel if she doesn't even bother asking me how I feel... or am I not that important that she wane sort things out its like we hate each other now and we didn't even fight :( just don't understand her not allot of girls like her cause she is selfish and stuborn always get what she wants no matter who she hurts sad for me to say this as I loved her at one stage :( I also think she expects me to crawl back to her!

Tanx for advise its so true..

Tell her to use that pshycology on her self.

People do grow apart
I think this has happened

I know her friends are your friends also
But if they are real sort of friend
That won't matter

Best of luck