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  • Oct 26, 2008, 08:37 AM
    expo1
    Talking to my girlfriend
    Its hard to talk to her like when she asks what do you want to talk about I can't pick I don't even care what we talk about and when I ask her what she wants to she says anything but I can't choose
  • Oct 26, 2008, 09:56 AM
    linnealand

    If you can talk at all about about anything interesting, she'll like it. A girl really can get bored easily if a guy can't think of anything to say.

    Get a hobby, read books, think about the universe... you'll come up with good ideas.

    If you really, really can't think of anything interesting to say, then try *doing* something interesting.
  • Oct 26, 2008, 10:57 AM
    411Help

    If you guys been dating a while it may be hard to sustain a conversation. Or, you guys spend too much time together. Go hang out with friends, anything, that permits time apart. This will allow interesting things to occur that would help keep a nice conversation.
  • Oct 29, 2008, 04:44 PM
    jrsg

    This happened to me in my last relationship...
    We dated for about a month. We saw each other everyday. We hung out after school, and talked. For about 7 hours a day, 5/6 days a week. And, we had 3/4 classes together. We sat next to each other in all of those classes. I am new to dating, and so was she. We didn't see it coming, but we got bored of each other. It seems so obvious, but make mistakes and learn from them.

    You may be able to learn the lesson, AND still have the relationship, which I am really hoping for.

    If you spend all you free time with her, stop now. Give some time to your friends (I tend to forget about them when I have a girlfriend) and do things on your own. Live your own life. Let her do the same. Then, you two will have things to tell each other, and you will have more to talk about. Even watch the news in the morning, and bring up current events. Maybe listen to some music with her. Just find something to talk about! Or, as sad as it is, it could be the demise of your relationship with her.

    Good luck,
    Let us know how everything goes :)
  • Oct 29, 2008, 06:03 PM
    JBeaucaire

    JRSG is right, there is such a thing as too much. You're supposed to have a well-rounded life with family, school, work, hobbies, volunteering/helping others, and THEN a girlfriend who looks at all the things your involved in and admires you. This also insures you have plenty do talk about because being around people and working/doing/volunteering/etc results in 100s and 100s of stories.

    If you have no stories, then your life is half-built and you need to get the rest in place.
  • Nov 11, 2010, 04:30 AM
    BrandonGT
    Everyone had some good advice there, but let me add this: it is not the 1950's, go find a girl that likes the same stuff as you. Sports if you like sports, videogames if you like videogames. Maybe she does share your interests, so this might be irrelevant. If not, realise that girls today can actually be cool... not all "makeup! clothes!" My wife kicks my butt at most fighting games T_T
  • Nov 12, 2010, 08:43 AM
    SweetDee

    Honestly, just talk about what you're into... what you want to try... people in your school (just don't talk sh*t about people).

    Girls tend to put all of that on boys... when they themselves have no social skills with boys. You both are in the same "pickle". Both of you are shy... and you both aren't sure what to say. Just know that she's worrying about the same stuff as you...

    Be yourself and try and be OPEN and talk about stuff that you're interested in. if she doesn't like what you are talking about maybe she's not the best choice of girl for you... (even if she is hawt haha). :)

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