Originally Posted by
JBeaucaire
Nenner, you made your decision already. You stood at the altar and before the universe you pledged a blood oath to this man for your entire lives. You've decided.
Someone failed to point out to you that forsaking all others didn't just mean resisting temptations presented in the guise of other men, it also means resisting the temptations that creep up from your own mind. You "forsake" you right to consider other men at all.
This ex is not the only man who can and WILL grab ahold of your head. Men will turn your attentions forever. You got married, you didn't stop being a human. The attraction to others is automatic, you do nothing to cause it.
But that's irrelevant now. Getting married means you've promised to deal with issues in ways single people do not. You promised to sacrifice and defer to this man for all time.
I know our culture seems to think "for better or worse" really just means "unless you change your mind"...but it doesn't. It means "for better or worse, I'll stay by your side, include you in my problems and my successes and confide in you even if it hurts." That's what you promised.
So that's what you do. You already decided.
Stop worrying about the ex's face popping up. That's normal, and human. But you smile at that memory, nod at it, then go back to your real life that is full of real love and real commitment. Just like you promised you would.