She had sex with her last boyfriend but she thinks love is sex and I'm still a virgin and I know she wants to have sex with me but I don't just want to have sex with her just to find out that's all she wanted because I actually like her and care about her were both 16

Hi, expo1!

I can appreciate where you're coming from in you attitude! Have you had a heart-to-heart with her about the way that you feel about this?

Thanks!

Hey I lost my virginity to my current boyfriend I've been with him for a year he had a girlfriend before me he slept with the only reason I did wa sbecause I knew I loved him and a year later were still togther. My boyfriend didn't do it with his ex until he was 18 so if you want to wait talk to her

As you stated, your girlfriend's clear motives are to have sex because she feels as if that's the pure definition of love. Listen to me, love is MUCH more than sex. Talk to her and tell her that you want more than physical interaction. If she doesn't accept this, then leave.

sex can be wonderful, incredible, and one of the deepest expressions of love there is.

it can also be trivialized, devalued, misused, and an emotional crutch.

it isn't clear whether you aren't ready (even if she loves you) or whether you are interested, but not wanting just to please her physically if she's not on the same page as you...

I suspected it was the second... that you might be interested but you aren't sure she's in as deep as you...

first, sex complicated relationships, whether you are a teen or older. It comes with responsibilities and consequences, and you know this.

I'm not going to tell you what is right or wrong for you... only you can do that... but it seems to me that you are a little unsure about where she stands with you... and at your age, if she breaks up with you because she cannot give you some time or room, she's just not right for you.

you should probably talk to her about the fact you are curious and interested, but want to perhaps hold back for a time.

there is nothing wrong with wanting sex and wanting your partner to be sexually attentive and giving... but only when you are really ready to deal with the pressures and stresses that come with sex.

if you are asking how do you know she likes you as much as you like her... we cannot answer that. That's between you and her.