I have a 2 year old and his father has not seen him in over a year in a half. My fiancé wants to adopted him when we get married. My son has been calling my fiancé daddy all the time and that is who he associates to being his daddy. I don't want any visitation or child support all I want is for him not to be in the kids life anymore. What can I do to get his right from him?

Well first you have to be married for at least a year. Then you contact the bio dad and ask if he will be willing to allow your husband to adopt. If he says yes then you hire a family law attorney and have him/her draw up the papers and it is pretty simple. If he says no then you may want to go to court for support. It seems that people are more willing to allow adoptions once they realize they will no longer have to pay support. Even then he may choose to pay support and he can even go to court for visitation.

Okay but I have asked him if he would give his right up and he said no. He also has a 4 year old daughter and he never sees her either and he does drugs like smoking pot and the last time that I let I'm take the child I found pot steams on his blanket. What else can I do?

Go to the file for child support tomorrow. If he pays great if not then it will add up and he will be in arrears and you go back to court to have it enforced and his pay will be garnished his tax returns intercepted and if he goes long enough he can be jailed. But basically unless you can prove to a judge that he is a danger to the child his rights will not be taken from him he can allow the adoption once you have been married for a year but if he already said no then I would go file for support tomorrow morning.

But what if I can't find him though?

Also, you may want to look into your States law. For instance GA requires the father to go through legitimation before they have any legal rights to the child. This of course is if mom and dad where never married, etc.

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Originally Posted by jenniep

But what if i can't find him though?

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Go to your local Child Support Enforcement agency. They have ways to track down mother and fathers that fall off the face of the earth. Good luck

He use to come over whenever he wanted and my fiancé always had to wait out in his car until he left and every time that he came over he would argue with me and he even called me arguing on the phone with me and called my fiancé a . My parents told him never to call here again because he argued with them too and then he had one of my use to be friends call. The last time he came over was in December and I told him if he wanted to see him he had to come over after 6 because that is when I got off work. He never came over or anything. When I had my son at a babysitter he never gave me the right amount of money so I always had to pay more out of my pocket. Now what should I do?

The answers aren't going to change. You never went to court for support so he doesn't owe you a dime for anything. Is he on the because? If not then the judge will first have to order a DNA test and have the results of the come back before anything else can be done. If you need to find him you can either hire a PI or see if the child support office can help or both. The only thing you really can do right now is file for support.