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  • Oct 22, 2008, 02:37 PM
    Forever_Ashley
    Father's Rights To His Child?
    I just found out that I am pregnant with my ex-fiance's child. I am 20 and he is 24.

    I don't want him to have any rights to the baby. He is a terrible influence and is too immature to take care of a baby. Plus he lives with his mother and she throws horrific temper tantrums over nothing, so I don't want my child in that sort of environment.

    If he wants to see the baby, I wouldn't mind it if I was there to supervise the visits, but I don't trust him alone with it.

    I do want him to pay child support, but I don't think that he would even if there was a court order for it.

    Is there any way that I can make sure that my ex-fiance does not have rights to my child? Or if he has to have rights, is there anyway that I can make sure he is never alone with the child and especially never has it at his mother's house?
  • Oct 24, 2008, 10:01 AM
    jpothoof
    Im unsure of some of the questions. But the one about paying child support and not seeing the child. Im pretty sure he doesn't have to pay child support if he does not have visitations with the child. However that's my past experience it could be different for different states and situations. I guess you will just have to take him to court. In order for him to have supervised visits I'm sure you would have to prove to the court that he needs to be supervised.

    I know this information is vague but I hope it helps a little.
  • Oct 24, 2008, 11:32 AM
    450donn

    If you do not tell him the child is his and unless he tries to insist on a paternity test, and if you do not list him as the father on the birth certificate how will he know the baby is his?
  • Oct 24, 2008, 12:13 PM
    jpothoof
    Comment on 450donn's post
    I agree but that means no child support. But it would mean safety of your child.
  • Oct 25, 2008, 05:06 AM
    Forever_Ashley
    I talked it over with my family and decided that I'm just not going to name him on the birth certificate.
  • Oct 25, 2008, 03:38 PM
    liz28

    If you don't name on the birth certificate then it would make it harder for you to collect child support. If you want to collect child support and his name isn't listed on the birth certificate then you slow the process down to collect because a dna test would've to be done and once he is proven to be the father his name will be added to the birth certificate. He could just sign the birth certificate at birth acknowledge parternity.

    Now if you want child support and a support order judged he does have rights to his child. The only way visitations can be ordered to be supervised I if he is a harm to his child. You can collect child support and not have him see his child. Visitations can be discuss at the time you go for child support and a visitation schedule would be put in place.

    In short, if you want child support let his name be on the because because in the end if you file for it, his name is going go on it anyway.
  • Oct 25, 2008, 08:44 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Well even if he is not on the birth certificate, he can file in court to be proven the father though DNA test. And then ask for joint custody, or visits. Unless there is documented profff he is a danger to the child he will get visits including over night.

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