My ex of over 10 yrs and I split. I took him for child support to help support his children. Well he founded a new girlfriend and is being a big butt head now. He has made 3 support payments already and now I got papers in the mail that he is taking me to court to try to get them to order paternity testing for 2 of 3 of our children. My 2 daughters are 8 and 2. He signed the paternity papers in the hospital for both of them and his name on the birth certificates. He told my kids to there faces she wants nothing to do with them and hasn't seen them in over 2 month and no contact. He is just stalling because he does not want to give me anything for them. He did not contest paternity before the child support hearing but he is now? Are the courts going to allow him the testing? And if they do will my support payments stop for the 2 girls and not my son? I'm totally confused.. Thanks for anyone who replies.

So, his new girlfriend doesn't want to carry the extra baggage along and tries to hypnotize your ex into signing his rights away as a father to your children. That's wrong. If you are certain he is the father than why worry about a paternity test? Go for it!

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Originally Posted by bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

So, his new girlfriend doesn't want to carry the extra baggage along and tries to hypnotize your ex into signing his rights away as a father to your children. That's wrong. If you are certain he is the father than why worry about a paternity test? Go for it!

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Yup you guessed it! I love the fact how total strangers can pick up on it. He took his kids the first weekend after we moved out and then he started seeing her and boom the kids were no longer important to him(I as well as everyone else thinks she has something to do with him not wanting him to take his kids.. od forbid they couldn't do what she wants because he has them). She has a 2 yr old son whom she leaves with her parents all the time so they can do what ever. I don't care about the testing but I do however feel betrayed that he thinks there not his. Kind of a emotional thing. MY daughter who is 8 I don't want her to find out why she has to be tested because it will devastate her even more. They cry and cry for their father but he don't care. I won't tell her why she has to go through the testing besides its for the dr's. It's a honest shame that I or them even have to go through this.

If you are sure he is the father then don't worry about it. If the court orders it then get it done and the results will come back positive and he will still have to pay support on them. If the cour ordered DNA comes back that he is not the father then that support order will be dropped (in most cases) because they aren't his. However, he did sign the because at birth so the judge will wonder why it took this long to question the paternaty.

Apparently this new girlfriend of his has somehow brainwashed him into thinking that your children aren't his as well. She's messed up and so is he for listening to her. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. People can be cruel, especially jealous girlfriends. The best thing to do is to go through with the testing. If he is truly the father, then he will still have to pay child support. As for being there for them emotionally, he doesn't have to. I know that stinks but wouldn't you rather have a man in your life that is willing to care and love for your children than to have their real 'father' not care at all? Keep doing what you do best, and that is giving all 3 of your children unconditional love, no matter what. Forget your ex. His heart is as cold as a winter night in Antartica.