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  • Oct 19, 2008, 04:41 PM
    Fixer12
    Shold I be worried?
    Over the weekend, I slept with an exgirlfriend. I have only been with one girl in my life. She has been with several.

    What I am wondering is she has been on birthcontrol for over a year now, and claims to take it at the right time. Also I had used a condom every time which were the trojan spermacide condoms... Also she was 2 days into per period. None of them broke. I just am wondering if I have anything to really worry about... thanks
  • Oct 19, 2008, 04:50 PM
    jaime90

    you shouldn't worry. If she's been on birthcontrol which is very effective, and you are using condoms, I wouldn't worry. During unprotected sex, my fiancé withdraws which is supposedly a little bit effective, and afterwards I take the morning after pill, if anyone should be worrying, it's us! =)
  • Oct 19, 2008, 05:17 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    First it should be fairly safe, but not 100 percent. First you have to trust she never misses a pill. And of course at best condoms are only 97 percent effective. There are people who do have babies while on the pill and using condoms, it is seldom but it can happen.

    As for jaime90, you should not be doing what you are doing.
    Pulling out is not a method what so ever, some body told you a lie you believed. And of course the morning after is not for regular use, if you are using it all the time, that is serious
  • Oct 20, 2008, 12:42 PM
    jaime90

    I'm not using it all the time, I said that's what we do during unprotected sex, which isn't so often. I'm actually on the pill- have never missed one, and we use condoms.
  • Oct 20, 2008, 02:47 PM
    linnealand
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jaime90 View Post
    you shouldn't worry. If she's been on birthcontrol which is very effective, and you are using condoms, I wouldn't worry. During unprotected sex, my fiance withdraws which is supposedly a little bit effective, and afterwards I take the morning after pill, if anyone should be worrying, it's us! =)

    I'm going to have to agree with chuck on this...

    What you said is pretty outrageous. The morning after pill is not out there to be used and abused as a regular (or semi-regular) method of birth control. If more people were doing what you're doing, I'm afraid the people who are against its use would have a much better chance of it being taken off the market altogether. It's out there as a last resort for people who have used other forms of protection that have failed, and rape victims, etc.

    The "pulling out" method is just the same as no form of birth control at all.
  • Oct 20, 2008, 06:26 PM
    jaime90

    Actually, like I said before, which isn't that outrageous I think it's normal: I'm on the birthcontrol pill so I have no need to use a morning after pill as a regular (or semi-regular) method of birth control- since I'm already on the pill. I would use it when I didn't plan on having sex, or if I missed a pill or a condom broke- I keep one on hand just in case. I have taken the morning after pill a total of 2 times when I had unprotected sex before I was on the pill, I don't use it regularly. If more people were doing what I'm doing- what? On the pill and using condoms... what? I don't know what.
  • Oct 20, 2008, 07:53 PM
    Choux

    You'll probably be OK.
  • Oct 20, 2008, 08:00 PM
    J_9
    Why don't we get back to the OP here?

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Fixer12 View Post
    Over the weekend, i slept with an exgirlfriend. i have only been with one girl in my life. she has been with several.

    What i am wondering is she has been on birthcontrol for over a year now, and claims to take it at the right time. Also i had used a condom everytime which were the trojan spermacide condoms... Also she was 2 days into per period. None of them broke. i just am wondering if i have anything to really worry about... thanks

    Well, if you are worried about pregnancy, you should be okay if she does take her pill and there were no holes in the condom.

    Now, remember that the condom does not protect against all STDs. Also remember that you are having sex with everyone she had sex with, so there is still a risk of certain STDs.

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