I have found myself latley to get so angry, over anything , I am 37, and have 3 kids under 5, I find myself to shout over anything, I hate myself, I feel worthless, like a no one , I scare myself at the way I get so angry, my partner and I always have rows , over nothing , I don't know how I feel about him, he is a good father and we both love our kids very much , we both come from loving familys. Why am I getting so angry, really fume to boiling point and then wonder after, why, people would say I'm a quiet person and placid. I don't know who to talk to.

HI,

I was going through a similar thing about 6 months ago,my situation turned out to be due to high blood sugar.

I would be absolutely livid over the most basic stresses,fuming over the littlest things, and had no real basis for this mood,although being bi-polar as well,the moods were not due to this,as it turned out, but the high blood sugar.

Now I am being treated for diabetes and haven't been in that mindset for months.

Might be something you can look into.

Hope this helps,even if it isn't the right answer, it's a sympathetic post.

KBC

Well for one thing, you can talk here. We're here to try and help, and just talk if you need to vent.

It sounds to me like you've just got an awful lot on your plate right now. 3 kids under 5? WOW! Who the heck wouldn't be stressed and feel angry sometimes?! That's A lot of work!

Does your partner help you out with the kids and give you a break? Do you have anyone that gives you extra help when you need it? Do you have your family and relatives or friends close to where you are? Maybe they could take the kids for an afternoon, or evening, and give you a chance to wind down and relax a bit.

You could also maybe try yoga, or deep breathing excersises, when you start to feel the anger coming on. If you get a chance at night, light some scented candles, and sit in a bubble bath with some good music, and just let yourself be in that moment, and let the anger go.

You need some time out for you, and you need to explain that to your mate. Try and arrange a "date night" at least once every few weeks, so that he and you can have a bit of spark back. Plan something special, and make sure you've got arrangements for babysitting.

Don't talk about the daily stresses or the kids when you're on your date night either. Forget for a few hrs that you have kids, and try and remember why you loved him in the beginning. Just have fun, and then maybe you would find yourself being less angry.

Also, do you have any hobbies that are relaxing? Something like drawing, painting, playing an instrument, gardening... whatever it is that you enjoy. Make sure you can somehow work that into your busy week. That is a de-stresser, as well as exersise!

Best of luck! :) Let us know how it goes for you. It's a start anyway. As said above, if nothing else helps, I would see a professional.

Get "counselling". I know it sounds useless but it helps with the anger. Been there done that.

Something just dawned on me. You have got 3 kids under five. You could possibly be suffering from post partum depression! Your hormones could be way out of whack. You should tell your family Dr. about your anger, and have him/her run tests. You might just need meds to balance your brain, to get your anger under control. I think I would rule that out first with a visit to your Dr. You could also do some research on the internet to see how many of your symptoms or mood swings ring true, and match how you feel.

Good luck! :)

Thank you, I have never heard of post partum depression before is it like post natal depression? I will look it up on the internet. I have had depression before and been on antidepressants.

Yes, I believe it would be the same thing as post natal depression. You might also want to check out a book store. If I'm not mistaken, I think Brooke Shields wrote a book on it. Marie Osmond might have also. I remember Brooke being on many shows talking about it. I hope you can get some help for what your going through. This could be a good start. :)