There's a first time for everything in life. We are born, learn to walk, talk, and develop an identity. Through this, we continue to grow and learn each and every day.
You are learning about your emotional feelings for another person, a partner, where this will take you is up to you both. You can, through your strong values, determine where your life goes on from here on.
You can have a heart to heart talk, even though you might argue (which is also part of a partnership) - letting him know that you are NOT his ex and never will be. You can also let him know that he should not attempt to mold any future woman in his life into his vision of the 'perfect woman' and expect her to give up her own identity just for him. That he has to learn to trust you and care for you as an entity that has nothing to do with his past.
Take him by the hand and both of you set on an entirely new path, leaving the past behind. If he is willing to take this journey with you this will benefit you both. But he has to be willing to try and trust you. Tell him that he can get you a cell phone if he feels more secure in you having one - but he does need to let you go where you want when you want to - you are not a slave.
Sounds like a lot of work headed your way and it could be worth it if he's willing to go along with your wishes. If not, then it's too much compromise on your part on a road that will not make you happy.
It's your choice, dear and I wish you all the best in no matter what you plan on doing.
Keep us posted - we will be here for you.
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A partnership is give and take on both sides.. not just your's.