I'm insecure a lot...
I'm very shy at times.

When it comes to kissing and stuff, I'm way too scared to kiss, and other stuff.

When it comes to sexual things, I'm too nervous to do anything.

I know what to do and stuff, but I'm nervous. Yes I'm young, but I know I will always be like this because this is who I am.

I'm always thinking, of what the guy is thinking of me.

I'm a pretty good looking girl as I'm told, and I look way older for my age, I'm fit , etc.

I'm insecure about my boobs too >.< I know they'll still grow, but girls now they sort of have boobs, well they failed grades a lot so whatever.

I'm a 32A... and in kids I'm like a 36-34A

I don't knowwwww, I just hate being SO shy, and SO nervous/paranoid and insecure!


Blahhh, I'm not even comfortable writing this but whatever.
-_________________- *sigh* anybody... help?

I'm not a stupid girl either, I don't do drugs or w/e
I've tried smoking, just to try, I've drank alcohol...
I've made out, I've done one sexual thing with a guy, and he did it to me because I'm too scared to do anything to him... (nervous of what he'll think)

I'm an A student, in many good programs in school, I'm pretty... I guess.

The average teen. So yeah... I'm a good person, just shy and very insecure a lot.

Talk to your doctor and see if you just have GAD (General Anxiety Disorder). It can cause you to be shy and insecure. I've been taking a medication, and it's helping honestly. And don't feel bad about a small chest - some girls are as flat as a board. Be happy with your appearance.

I think your pretty normal to me, most girls your age are pretty worried about their looks ans their bodies.. Be patient your body will grow into it self soon enough. As far as kissing ans sex stuff goes most guys are worried about the same things you are plus a little more so don't worry about that, but the real question is maybe your just ready for any of that stuff yet. Take your time don't rush into anything don't be pushed into anything your not ready for, remember when you have sex it will change your life forever so jump it to anything...

Take care of you

I know, thanks guys. :/

Let me start by saying looks aren't everything. You really shouldn't worry about sex because all the people who are forced into it regret it. Kissing isn't an issue. But really it depends a lot on what the situation is. Whether its with your b/f or if its just as dares etc. you definantly don't need to worry about your chest. Your boyfriend should make you feel special, that you're a good kisser, you look great etc. but that is mostly superficial. You need to be able to look at yourself and be happy with who you are. It is normal to be caught up in those sort of feelings but you need to find inner beauty to be happy. It is definiantly good to be nervouse, you really shouldn't be forced to do anything you don't want to do. Have fun but be cautious. Go out and enjoy yourself. All the things you are worried about are natural and they go naturally if you are in the frame of mind to start feeling more confident in yourself. Most importantly you feel insecure around other people who are in the main doing childish things like going and getting drunk, having sex then regretting it. Even on a small scale sitting in a circle and taking pot luck at kissing desperate little boys shouldn't be something to worry about! Love yourself. You are worrying simply on what the people areound you are mixed up in - girls trying to impress the boys and boys trying to impress the girls - it is pethetic but mainly necessary to do but being childish and doing stupid things to impress boys isn't something you should be worying about, you should show them that you are someone that they can trust, respect and enjoy the relaxed company of. Those to me are some of the key skelatol parts to a long lasting relationship. It depends what your priorities are, boys or men. Hope this helped

Thank youuuu<3333

I am like the same as you.
I am 14 very shy and insecure I care very much about how I look and how I appear to other people. I wear a 34A bra size and the only reason I can live with my boobs is because my moms are smaller than mine (snicker) I have made out with a guy and they have done some stuff to me. The only thing I have ever done to a guy is touched his... you know. Most people tell me I'm pretty but the thing is, I have dark hair so the hair on my arms show up very well and there is a lot of it. I just shaved my arms tonight and they feel awsome!! But... well I don't know really... I guess I'm afraid someone is going to notice and be like eeww! Skye shaves her arms. I guess that's not as bad as being called Chewbacca (thats what they call me bacause of my arms. It went so far as I hardly ever take my sweater off) I have a boyfriend and he doesn't care how I look. He likes me because I'm a nice person but this doesn't stop me from caring about what he thinks of me and I feel that I'm not pretty or good enough to be with him. I guess we're just at that age where nothing makes sense and veryone starts judjing everybody else... I just don't know what to do. I guess all I can say is (and iv'e been told this lots) It gets easier as you get older... I hope
Ttyl and write back because I think we are two people that could vent with each other and not worry about what the other thinks. Bye

Be carefullllllllll!!
Guys can be decieving and s... as well as girls... it's hard to tell but yeah... and well they'll still grow... thats what keeps me going haha (:

As I said before. Your boyfriend should make you feel special. I am a boy and for me it is really hard to understand what girls want me to do. I think that Skye, you should try and find out whether your boyfriend likes your body or likes you. He might just want to have your body. You know him better than anyone so its you who will be able to explain how your feeling and why you think your feeling insecure. I agree with marriaget, guys can be decieving and so can girls but you should have an equal say in what happens in your relationship. It sounds like this guy cares about you but many people find that they are either fit guys looking to get in your nickers or not so fit guys that want to spend time with you and look after you. So again it depends if you just want to have fun with this guy and be adventurous. This in my opninion is reckless and childish. Or you can find someone to confide in. I think that the more we talk about problems to people our age that understand the easier it will become for us to make the right decisions in life.

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be carefullllllllll!!!!!!!!!
guys can be decieving and s...as well as girls....it's hard to tell but yeah....and well they'll still grow...thats what keeps me going haha (:

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I know I have been told this so many times and I try to keep it in mind. I really do believe him though because he's not like other guys. He actually talks to all the girls and he never makes fun of anybody. I know he wouldn't pressure me into anything I don't want to do and he really understands. I don't know I'm kind of confused. I really like him though but I won't do anything I know is wrong. Shaving my arms has given me way more confidence I will let the hair grow back and see what it looks like. Then I will decide if I will keep shaving them. What is your views on shaving your arms?:confused:
Thanks for letting me vent:p

Thanks "nallaNeedsYou" and "Marriaget" you guys have helped me a lot but... well I just don't know. I have so many problems and no one to tell them too because I don't like talking to my brother because he never understands... plus he was one of the people that called me chewbacca (He's 10!! ) My mom works at the bar so I never see her either. I don't really have a Dad because I never met him. I guys I'm just looking for someone to guide me through the tough parts of my life. Like everybody says adolesence is the hardest age. Hope you can help. You guys are great.

Skye

Well goahead and make your own topic any time you need help Curiousteenager. Like I said in your topic. Shaving your arms is 100% acceptable as a women. Hell most girls I know can't go more than 2 days without shaving something or another.

haha ohh you're SKYE (: haha<3
and everyone knows shaving makes the hair grow back thicker and more. I shave my legs... and armpits... and sometimes the lower area... though you shouldn't but w/e and my arms... I did a few times but I'm not really hairy there. Maybe waxing is better? I don't know it's all right. (:

but I'm serioussssss, be careful with guys. ALWAYS give them the benefit of the doubt. They can hold out long thinking "oh she'll put out", they want it sweety, they do lol most of them, especially the horny HS guys ^-^

I just don't like girls getting used, and fooled. It's hard to tell though... and there are actually some really nice guys out there. (:

you never knowwwww.

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Originally Posted by marriaget

haha ohh you're SKYE (: haha<3
and everyone knows shaving makes the hair grow back thicker and more. I shave my legs...and armpits...and sometimes the lower area...though you shouldnt but w/e and my arms...i did a few times but im not really hairy there. Maybe waxing is better? idk it's alright. (:

but im serioussssss, be careful with guys. ALWAYS give them the benefit of the doubt. they can hold out long thinking "oh she'll put out", they want it sweety, they do lol most of them, especially the horny HS guys ^-^

I just don't like girls getting used, and fooled. It's hard to tell though...and there are actually some really nice guys out there. (:

you never knowwwww.

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Guys can be used and fooled as well. Girls can move through guys A lot faster too. I think it is a lot harder to use a guy for sex though... Most would not even mind lol...

Lol. Yeah I know guys could end up using girls and it also works the same way around. I will always be careful. Prolmise. I am getting my picture in rite now so you can see what I look like